We all have an image of ourselves. If that image is a positive one, our self esteem will be good. We will have motivation to achieve, combined with optimism and hope for the future. Certainly the most successful people in life have a great, positive self image that attracts success. These men and women will hold themselves with confidence and poise, exuding a successful lifestyle.
For so many others, that image of themselves isn’t so good. They see themselves as being fat or unsuccessful, their vision being of a person with no confidence or deserving of no worth at all. These beliefs are embedded deep within their subconscious mind and it becomes so difficult to turn their lives around. Their self image is turned into a “self fulfilling prophecy” and they are then that fat person or the unsuccessful one.
The identity we create for ourselves come from three sources,
The experiences we have had in our lives and how we have perceived them.
Outside programming; in other words what people say or have said about us.
What we say and think about ourselves.
In order to change the circumstances, the individual must first want to change their situation. The desire to change must also be strong. Half hearted attempts at remodelling their lives will more than likely end up in failure. http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
The next step is to re-think the person they are. Re-invent themselves. One reason that so many diets fail is because the person sees themselves as being fat. They may well be carrying to much weight but having the self image of a fat person makes the subconscious mind do all it can to keep the body fat. The diet becomes extremely difficult to stick to and cravings for high calorie food are then hard to resist.
A self image of a slim person needs to be created in the mind for dieting to stand a better chance of being successful. Re-invent that self image. By making affirmations that they are slim and beautiful and acting likewise will get the subconscious mind working to create that desired shape, the body they so want.
It is exactly the same with abundance. An image of poverty and a life lacking success will bring exactly that; a lack of abundance and success. To alter the situation one most first re-invent themselves: change the self imagery to one of abundance and success which will develop a greater self esteem. http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
The story that people tell about themselves must change. It is all very well being self deprecating but if those words are being believed then the image one has of themselves will be poor. It doesn’t mean that people should start bragging and tell others that they are thin when they have obviously still got some weight to lose. But to themselves, the self talk must be positive and the story should be saying that they are already the person they want to be.
Being surrounded by people who can only criticise is the most demoralising of situations. Constructive criticism from informed people is obviously necessary for progress to be made but this needs to be outweighed by encouragement and praise for self image and self esteem to be boosted. For those that find themselves in the company of people who seem to always express negative opinions, the time has probably come to change the people they mix with. One must set the standards for outside programming, determining what level of criticism they can accept without affecting their positive self image.
For those that suffer a negative self image, re-inventing themselves will do amazing things for their self esteem, motivation, inspiration and self confidence.
Terry Norrington
http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
http://whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.com
www.2knowmyself.com
Friday, 6 February 2009
Tuesday, 3 February 2009
How Powerful Hypnosis Can Greatly Improve Your Self Esteem and Optimism
Hypnosis is such a powerful method for improving self confidence, self image, motivation and optimism yet it is shrouded in myths, mystery and images of the occult.
So what is hypnosis?
Can we dispel some of the myths that surround it?
How can we use it to improve our lives?
Hypnosis is?
Hypnosis is a scientifically proven and powerfully effective technique that can help in cases as
changing behaviour
improving mental health
breaking bad habits
improving optimism, motivation and self esteem
setting goals
quitting smoking
losing weight.
The process involves getting the subject into a very relaxed state of relaxation. At this point the subconscious mind becomes extremely receptive to suggestions. As one of the functions of the subconscious mind is to control our beliefs and emotions, it can now be seen how beliefs and thoughts can easily be altered using hypnosis. This may at first appear to be a frightening prospect but as we shall demonstrate there shouldn’t be anything to fear. http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
So what are the myths?
The media are very hot on portraying subjects under the influence of hypnosis as being asleep. Many a stage act has produced people performing what seems like absurd routines.
On the contrary, hypnosis is an approved scientifically based method of therapy which is many centuries old. Under hypnosis the subject remains aware of his/her surroundings. The conscious mind becomes a little dormant and the subconscious mind takes more control but the subject cannot be forced to do or say anything that they do not want to. Such participants in any stage performance are likely to be very extrovert by nature and enjoy performing in public anyway.
Being under hypnosis is to be in a state of deep relaxation, receptive to suggestions yet still being aware of the surroundings. It’s like being half awake, that short period before falling asleep. It is sometimes referred to as “the trance state” where the conscious mind is slightly dormant so does not perform its normal function of filtering suggestions.
The conscious mind filters out what it does not like or will not accept. Tell somebody that is lacking in confidence that they are a confident person and their conscious mind will likely block that idea. Under hypnosis though, the conscious mind is less capable of blocking suggestions, so the suggestion of confidence now by-passes the conscious mind and sinks into the subconscious mind. Further repetition of this suggestion under hypnosis will deepen the belief.
Commercials on television have little effect on us unless they catch us in a state of deep relaxation. Sometimes if we are fully engrossed in a television programme the interruption of that programme can catch us in an almost hypnotic state. Subliminal advertising where messages were flashed onto the screen so quickly that the eye didn’t see it were very affective many decades ago. Despite the eye not catching it, the subconscious mind did and subsequently many people developed the desire to have that product. Needless to say, this practice has no been abolished on our T.V. sets now. http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
What can hypnosis do for us?
In the deep relaxed state where the subconscious mind is more in control, it becomes easier to program. Thus new beliefs can be installed and old ones strengthened. As the subconscious mind controls behaviour, so new patterns of behaviour can be installed.
Inferiority complexes can be removed, self images greatly improved and self confidence, motivation and optimism strongly boosted. All tremendous qualities to create success.
Terry Norrington
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
http://www.getselfconfident.com
http://www.2knowmyself.com
http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
So what is hypnosis?
Can we dispel some of the myths that surround it?
How can we use it to improve our lives?
Hypnosis is?
Hypnosis is a scientifically proven and powerfully effective technique that can help in cases as
changing behaviour
improving mental health
breaking bad habits
improving optimism, motivation and self esteem
setting goals
quitting smoking
losing weight.
The process involves getting the subject into a very relaxed state of relaxation. At this point the subconscious mind becomes extremely receptive to suggestions. As one of the functions of the subconscious mind is to control our beliefs and emotions, it can now be seen how beliefs and thoughts can easily be altered using hypnosis. This may at first appear to be a frightening prospect but as we shall demonstrate there shouldn’t be anything to fear. http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
So what are the myths?
The media are very hot on portraying subjects under the influence of hypnosis as being asleep. Many a stage act has produced people performing what seems like absurd routines.
On the contrary, hypnosis is an approved scientifically based method of therapy which is many centuries old. Under hypnosis the subject remains aware of his/her surroundings. The conscious mind becomes a little dormant and the subconscious mind takes more control but the subject cannot be forced to do or say anything that they do not want to. Such participants in any stage performance are likely to be very extrovert by nature and enjoy performing in public anyway.
Being under hypnosis is to be in a state of deep relaxation, receptive to suggestions yet still being aware of the surroundings. It’s like being half awake, that short period before falling asleep. It is sometimes referred to as “the trance state” where the conscious mind is slightly dormant so does not perform its normal function of filtering suggestions.
The conscious mind filters out what it does not like or will not accept. Tell somebody that is lacking in confidence that they are a confident person and their conscious mind will likely block that idea. Under hypnosis though, the conscious mind is less capable of blocking suggestions, so the suggestion of confidence now by-passes the conscious mind and sinks into the subconscious mind. Further repetition of this suggestion under hypnosis will deepen the belief.
Commercials on television have little effect on us unless they catch us in a state of deep relaxation. Sometimes if we are fully engrossed in a television programme the interruption of that programme can catch us in an almost hypnotic state. Subliminal advertising where messages were flashed onto the screen so quickly that the eye didn’t see it were very affective many decades ago. Despite the eye not catching it, the subconscious mind did and subsequently many people developed the desire to have that product. Needless to say, this practice has no been abolished on our T.V. sets now. http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
What can hypnosis do for us?
In the deep relaxed state where the subconscious mind is more in control, it becomes easier to program. Thus new beliefs can be installed and old ones strengthened. As the subconscious mind controls behaviour, so new patterns of behaviour can be installed.
Inferiority complexes can be removed, self images greatly improved and self confidence, motivation and optimism strongly boosted. All tremendous qualities to create success.
Terry Norrington
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
http://www.getselfconfident.com
http://www.2knowmyself.com
http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
Sunday, 1 February 2009
Get Rid of That Debilitating Inferiority Complex and Develop Great Self Esteem
There is nothing like an inferiority complex to destroy motivation, inspiration and self confidence. Self esteem can greatly be affected by feelings of inferiority too, so what is an inferiority complex and how do we overcome it?
The causes of inferiority complex.
Unfortunate or even catastrophic events of the past which have lead to you labelling yourself as inadequate or unworthy are the most common reasons that an inferiority complex has developed. Such events could be:-
Coming from a different race to your peers and being ridiculed for it.
Mocked by your teachers or peers by calling you lazy or stupid.
Being handicapped.
Feeling ugly compared to your peers.
Not being skilled at a popular sport.
Parents continuously putting you down.
Coming from a lower social level than your peers.
Sometimes it is very hard to get to the root cause of your inferiority complex. Childhood memories can be deeply locked away in the memory. Hypnosis is a very powerful way of unlocking from your subconscious mind, those hidden memories that may well be creating feelings of inferiority.
http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
You feel different from others which give feelings of being disadvantaged. If you aren’t particularly clever but had the fortune to be surrounded by encouraging teachers and loving parents you would have, more likely than not, grown up with no feelings of inferiority and a self esteem fully balanced.
Some people compensate for their inferiority complex by striving to achieve in other areas such as sport or their studies. Many high achievers can attribute their success to an inferiority complex which, to some degree, isn’t a bad thing.
Other people will mask their feelings of inferiority by acting superior to everybody else thus developing a superiority complex.
Overcoming an inferiority complex and low self esteem.
As mentioned earlier, the root cause of the inferiority complex needs to be discovered. Hypnosis may well help this process.
http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
Don’t associate your inferiority complex with current external conditions. Not achieving your grades, driving high performance cars or generally not being successful are current external factors. Inferiority comes from within. There are many people who spend their lives achieving great wealth and power and yet still never conquer those inferior feelings.
Self talk in the positive. By catching all those negative thoughts and comments and replacing them with positive ones about yourself, and then repeating this over and over again will eventually allow you to think positively automatically.
Remove those labels that you have allowed to develop through your lifes journey. Those labels such as “fool” or “idiot” that you some how associate with yourself need to be challenged and erased to greatly improve your self esteem and confidence.
The use of hypnosis under professional guidance is an extremely powerful tool to banish an inferiority complex. http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
Rebuild your self confidence. Remember you are not your behaviour or your looks. You don’t have to have everything in life or be perfect at everything to feel worthy.
Removing an inferiority complex will greatly improve self confidence, self esteem, motivation and inspiration whilst allowing you to live your life with tremendous optimism.
Terry Norrington
http://140020.successuniversity.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
www.getselfconfident.com
www.2knowmyself.com
The causes of inferiority complex.
Unfortunate or even catastrophic events of the past which have lead to you labelling yourself as inadequate or unworthy are the most common reasons that an inferiority complex has developed. Such events could be:-
Coming from a different race to your peers and being ridiculed for it.
Mocked by your teachers or peers by calling you lazy or stupid.
Being handicapped.
Feeling ugly compared to your peers.
Not being skilled at a popular sport.
Parents continuously putting you down.
Coming from a lower social level than your peers.
Sometimes it is very hard to get to the root cause of your inferiority complex. Childhood memories can be deeply locked away in the memory. Hypnosis is a very powerful way of unlocking from your subconscious mind, those hidden memories that may well be creating feelings of inferiority.
http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
You feel different from others which give feelings of being disadvantaged. If you aren’t particularly clever but had the fortune to be surrounded by encouraging teachers and loving parents you would have, more likely than not, grown up with no feelings of inferiority and a self esteem fully balanced.
Some people compensate for their inferiority complex by striving to achieve in other areas such as sport or their studies. Many high achievers can attribute their success to an inferiority complex which, to some degree, isn’t a bad thing.
Other people will mask their feelings of inferiority by acting superior to everybody else thus developing a superiority complex.
Overcoming an inferiority complex and low self esteem.
As mentioned earlier, the root cause of the inferiority complex needs to be discovered. Hypnosis may well help this process.
http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
Don’t associate your inferiority complex with current external conditions. Not achieving your grades, driving high performance cars or generally not being successful are current external factors. Inferiority comes from within. There are many people who spend their lives achieving great wealth and power and yet still never conquer those inferior feelings.
Self talk in the positive. By catching all those negative thoughts and comments and replacing them with positive ones about yourself, and then repeating this over and over again will eventually allow you to think positively automatically.
Remove those labels that you have allowed to develop through your lifes journey. Those labels such as “fool” or “idiot” that you some how associate with yourself need to be challenged and erased to greatly improve your self esteem and confidence.
The use of hypnosis under professional guidance is an extremely powerful tool to banish an inferiority complex. http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
Rebuild your self confidence. Remember you are not your behaviour or your looks. You don’t have to have everything in life or be perfect at everything to feel worthy.
Removing an inferiority complex will greatly improve self confidence, self esteem, motivation and inspiration whilst allowing you to live your life with tremendous optimism.
Terry Norrington
http://140020.successuniversity.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
www.getselfconfident.com
www.2knowmyself.com
Friday, 23 January 2009
How to Find Motivation From the Most Dramatic Situations
Despite the severity of any given circumstance, finding the positive angle in these situations does wonders for our self confidence, creates tremendous self esteem and provides the necessary motivation for us to overcome the hurdle. This aids us in gaining control of the situation thus reducing stress and helping to form a sense of well-being.
How then are we able to take anything positive from a dire event?
There is a technique called “reframing”.
Try removing the frame from a much loved picture. Now place a completely different style of frame around that picture. Although the picture is still the same it appears different. Perhaps another part of the picture stands out more or maybe the mood created by the image changes in some way. Whatever it may be, it is not the same picture. The likelihood is that we will have created a greater appreciation of the original frame.
In any given situation, altering the frame of reference gives us a realisation of the negative aspects and armed with this new realisation, we are able build a more positive and confident attitude to a difficult problem.
There are two steps to reframing that we should follow if we want to view a negative circumstance with greater optimism.
Understand the original frame. Ask ourselves, how do we feel about the situation we find ourselves in? Are we angry or desperate, frustrated even? What do we feel like doing about the position we find ourselves in?
Create a new frame to find positive aspects of where we find ourselves so we can vastly improve our motivation and change the situation.
We can use the example of having missed the train. The negative stance would be something like,
“What an idiot I am. I should have walked faster then I wouldn’t have missed it. Now I’m going to be really late home”.
Reframing it to give the situation the positive view point could be,
“Hey ho, never mind. Now I’ve got time to buy the wife’s birthday card and then grab a coffee and chill out”.
Always try to look for the blessings in disguise and this will enhance our self esteem so much. The way of looking at the more dramatic circumstance of losing our jobs with more optimism maybe,
“Well at least I will have more time to spend with my family. I can even use the time to retrain for a different career”.
Concentrating on a solution rather than the problem is another terrific way of reframing a situation. Take the example of a roof leaking.
The negative stance is,
“My roof leaks, now I’m going to get water everywhere”.
“Replace the tile and the leak is mended”, is the positive view and is also finding the solution.
By saying,
“My job is really stressful, I don’t know how I’m going to get over all these problems”, is looking at the problem.
“My job is really interesting. Overcome all these problems and I can really prove my worth”, is trying to find solutions and really helps to provide the motivation to take on what has now become a challenge.
Using common phrases helps to create positive ness and confidence.
“It could be worse”.
“Everything happens for a reason”.
“It’s only money. Other people have far greater problems”.
These are typical illustrations of phrases that we can use to promote optimism in hard times.
To take something positive from traumatic events such as a life threatening illness or bereavement may seem like a tall order. But salvaging something positive from such difficult times creates the inspiration to carry on and get on with life. To see these events as being part of the bigger picture gives us a reason to move forward. Having a deep conviction in faith and religion, thus holding on to our spirituality can certainly be another reassuring quality that helps get us through the most trying of circumstances.
Reframing may not necessarily make every picture seem like an image of roses, but it will provide acceptance. It also helps us to learn from the most traumatic of experiences.
Optimism, self esteem, confidence, motivation and inspiration can certainly be drawn from viewing situations in a positive light.
Terry Norrington
www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.com
How then are we able to take anything positive from a dire event?
There is a technique called “reframing”.
Try removing the frame from a much loved picture. Now place a completely different style of frame around that picture. Although the picture is still the same it appears different. Perhaps another part of the picture stands out more or maybe the mood created by the image changes in some way. Whatever it may be, it is not the same picture. The likelihood is that we will have created a greater appreciation of the original frame.
In any given situation, altering the frame of reference gives us a realisation of the negative aspects and armed with this new realisation, we are able build a more positive and confident attitude to a difficult problem.
There are two steps to reframing that we should follow if we want to view a negative circumstance with greater optimism.
Understand the original frame. Ask ourselves, how do we feel about the situation we find ourselves in? Are we angry or desperate, frustrated even? What do we feel like doing about the position we find ourselves in?
Create a new frame to find positive aspects of where we find ourselves so we can vastly improve our motivation and change the situation.
We can use the example of having missed the train. The negative stance would be something like,
“What an idiot I am. I should have walked faster then I wouldn’t have missed it. Now I’m going to be really late home”.
Reframing it to give the situation the positive view point could be,
“Hey ho, never mind. Now I’ve got time to buy the wife’s birthday card and then grab a coffee and chill out”.
Always try to look for the blessings in disguise and this will enhance our self esteem so much. The way of looking at the more dramatic circumstance of losing our jobs with more optimism maybe,
“Well at least I will have more time to spend with my family. I can even use the time to retrain for a different career”.
Concentrating on a solution rather than the problem is another terrific way of reframing a situation. Take the example of a roof leaking.
The negative stance is,
“My roof leaks, now I’m going to get water everywhere”.
“Replace the tile and the leak is mended”, is the positive view and is also finding the solution.
By saying,
“My job is really stressful, I don’t know how I’m going to get over all these problems”, is looking at the problem.
“My job is really interesting. Overcome all these problems and I can really prove my worth”, is trying to find solutions and really helps to provide the motivation to take on what has now become a challenge.
Using common phrases helps to create positive ness and confidence.
“It could be worse”.
“Everything happens for a reason”.
“It’s only money. Other people have far greater problems”.
These are typical illustrations of phrases that we can use to promote optimism in hard times.
To take something positive from traumatic events such as a life threatening illness or bereavement may seem like a tall order. But salvaging something positive from such difficult times creates the inspiration to carry on and get on with life. To see these events as being part of the bigger picture gives us a reason to move forward. Having a deep conviction in faith and religion, thus holding on to our spirituality can certainly be another reassuring quality that helps get us through the most trying of circumstances.
Reframing may not necessarily make every picture seem like an image of roses, but it will provide acceptance. It also helps us to learn from the most traumatic of experiences.
Optimism, self esteem, confidence, motivation and inspiration can certainly be drawn from viewing situations in a positive light.
Terry Norrington
www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.com
Tuesday, 20 January 2009
Greatly Improve Your Self Esteem Through Your Subconscious Mind
All our emotions such as optimism, self esteem, motivation, inspiration and confidence are triggered from our subconscious mind. This mysterious and magical part of the brain has so much effect on our everyday lives and yet we hardly know much about it and how it works.
So what is the subconscious mind and how does it affect us, our optimism and self confidence so much?
The subconscious mind could be viewed as the storage space for everything not currently taking space in the conscious mind. It stores memories, life experiences, skills, our belief system and all images ever seen.
When faced with any given situation, the subconscious mind triggers appropriate emotions based upon previous life experiences. Upon placing ourselves in danger, fear and anxiety kick in, triggered from the subconscious mind.
Learning to drive is a terrific example of learned skills being stored in the subconscious mind. When first learning to drive and confidence is in short supply, the conscious mind forces us to concentrate with every gear change, turn of the steering wheel and application of the brakes being a deliberate action. Once the driving test is out of the way these actions are passed from the conscious mind to the subconscious part of the brain and confidence and self esteem make driving an automatic process. The conscious mind is free to focus on other things. How many times have we driven from A to B and not been able to remember the journey?
Through the conscious mind we are able to control logic, thought and calculation. The subconscious mind however controls automatic, life sustaining processes such as the heart beat and breathing. Try concentrating for one minute on our breathing. This proves relatively easy as we control the depth and frequencies of each breath. Remove the focus and still we find that we breathe quite naturally.
When we learn a skill such as driving it is like programming a computer. Our subconscious mind is the computer and the driving skill is the software. Emotions are equally like software. If somebody shouts at us aggressively, our subconscious mind reaches for the anger software. Yet this particular computer can be reprogrammed to accept different software so long as the subconscious mind is still protecting our emotional well-being. In the face of aggressive action the subconscious can be programmed to respond calmly yet focussed in order to deal with the situation in the most rational manner possible.
Reprogramming the subconscious mind can be done through hypnosis and constant repetition without logic ever playing a part. Constant repetition of an argument can alter somebody’s point of view despite the absence of logic.
As the body defends against physical wounds and injuries, so the subconscious mind protects against emotional shocks and wounds. This ego defence mechanism protects emotional well-being and helps overcome emotional shocks.
In essence the conscious and subconscious minds work as a team. The conscious mind deals with current tasks and then assigns them to the subconscious mind. The subconscious on the other hand, sends feedback in the form of emotions to the conscious mind. Being aware of the link between conscious and subconscious mind can greatly improve skills and mastery of emotions.
Awareness of the function of the subconscious mind gives us the ability to master such emotions as optimism, self esteem, confidence, inspiration and motivation; all positive emotions that greatly improve the chances of success and happiness.
Terry Norrington
www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.com
So what is the subconscious mind and how does it affect us, our optimism and self confidence so much?
The subconscious mind could be viewed as the storage space for everything not currently taking space in the conscious mind. It stores memories, life experiences, skills, our belief system and all images ever seen.
When faced with any given situation, the subconscious mind triggers appropriate emotions based upon previous life experiences. Upon placing ourselves in danger, fear and anxiety kick in, triggered from the subconscious mind.
Learning to drive is a terrific example of learned skills being stored in the subconscious mind. When first learning to drive and confidence is in short supply, the conscious mind forces us to concentrate with every gear change, turn of the steering wheel and application of the brakes being a deliberate action. Once the driving test is out of the way these actions are passed from the conscious mind to the subconscious part of the brain and confidence and self esteem make driving an automatic process. The conscious mind is free to focus on other things. How many times have we driven from A to B and not been able to remember the journey?
Through the conscious mind we are able to control logic, thought and calculation. The subconscious mind however controls automatic, life sustaining processes such as the heart beat and breathing. Try concentrating for one minute on our breathing. This proves relatively easy as we control the depth and frequencies of each breath. Remove the focus and still we find that we breathe quite naturally.
When we learn a skill such as driving it is like programming a computer. Our subconscious mind is the computer and the driving skill is the software. Emotions are equally like software. If somebody shouts at us aggressively, our subconscious mind reaches for the anger software. Yet this particular computer can be reprogrammed to accept different software so long as the subconscious mind is still protecting our emotional well-being. In the face of aggressive action the subconscious can be programmed to respond calmly yet focussed in order to deal with the situation in the most rational manner possible.
Reprogramming the subconscious mind can be done through hypnosis and constant repetition without logic ever playing a part. Constant repetition of an argument can alter somebody’s point of view despite the absence of logic.
As the body defends against physical wounds and injuries, so the subconscious mind protects against emotional shocks and wounds. This ego defence mechanism protects emotional well-being and helps overcome emotional shocks.
In essence the conscious and subconscious minds work as a team. The conscious mind deals with current tasks and then assigns them to the subconscious mind. The subconscious on the other hand, sends feedback in the form of emotions to the conscious mind. Being aware of the link between conscious and subconscious mind can greatly improve skills and mastery of emotions.
Awareness of the function of the subconscious mind gives us the ability to master such emotions as optimism, self esteem, confidence, inspiration and motivation; all positive emotions that greatly improve the chances of success and happiness.
Terry Norrington
www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.com
Saturday, 17 January 2009
Get Out of the Rat Race. How Inspiration Can Give You the Life of Your Dreams
Does there seem to be a lack of inspiration and motivation in your life?
Is your self esteem suffering because you wonder if this is all there is to life?
Perhaps your self confidence is suffering as your daily life drags you from one task to another.
These questions and comments resonate amongst many millions of people the world over. You ask yourself,
“What is life about?”
Your confidence is shattered as you wake up early in the morning already feeling completely worn out, as the thought of another day of fighting your way to work immediately drains your energies. Rushing through one laborious task just to get to the next and then the next before making that arduous journey back home just in time to see the kids being snugly tucked up in bed.
“Is this all my life will ever consist of?” you keep asking yourself without really looking for a way out of this trap. Optimism and hope are feelings that are long gone as the demands of mortgages and bills are the only motivation for getting out of bed in the mornings.
This is the rat race, all these people’s lives being used as the wheels to drive industry and commerce forward to greater and greater profits, although at present, some of those wheels seem to be falling off.
Does life have to be like this?
Is there another way?
Well, yes there is. Life really can be so much better than hurrying from one job just to tackle the next. To be able to enjoy the experience of every moment, every task we do, is a truly rewarding goal to aim for. Admittedly it is unlikely to be achieved in its entirety as taking the rough with the smooth makes us appreciate the smooth so much more. But if we have the correct attitude then even the hard times will be viewed as a learning curve that is well worth the effort of working through. And to aim to get something from every moment gives our lives hope, inspiration and motivation.
“What is life if full of care, we take no time to stand and stare?”
This famous line is so true. There is so much around us that is so beautiful, yet we barely notice. God has created a world so full of abundance yet very few people appreciate it. Although this is the world of our creator, he has given it for all of us to enjoy. We all can have the lives that we want if we dream big and totally believe and have the confidence that we can achieve this.
Life is not a dress rehearsal. We only have one life on this earth (as far as we know) so why not make the most of it?
So many people have fear; the fear to dream and take action to achieve those dreams. It takes belief, self confidence and a great desire to go for those dreams.
That belief may be in your self; the total confidence that you have the ability to reach the pinnacle of your personal mountain. Others have the absolute faith that God will help create the lives that they want and deserve. With complete gratitude, they know that God will show them the way to experience all the abundance that he has placed on this earth.
Wherever the belief comes from lives can change dramatically for the better. It won’t happen over night. Packing in a job that pays the mortgage and the bills before creating a better path will be considered by most to be foolhardy; although some have taken that drastic action and gotten away with it. Having the self confidence or the belief that god will shine a light on the path to follow will eventually lead to the life that is dreamed of.
Belief, optimism, confidence, self esteem, inspiration and motivation are all positive qualities that will lead to a life of abundance.
Terry Norrington
www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.com
Is your self esteem suffering because you wonder if this is all there is to life?
Perhaps your self confidence is suffering as your daily life drags you from one task to another.
These questions and comments resonate amongst many millions of people the world over. You ask yourself,
“What is life about?”
Your confidence is shattered as you wake up early in the morning already feeling completely worn out, as the thought of another day of fighting your way to work immediately drains your energies. Rushing through one laborious task just to get to the next and then the next before making that arduous journey back home just in time to see the kids being snugly tucked up in bed.
“Is this all my life will ever consist of?” you keep asking yourself without really looking for a way out of this trap. Optimism and hope are feelings that are long gone as the demands of mortgages and bills are the only motivation for getting out of bed in the mornings.
This is the rat race, all these people’s lives being used as the wheels to drive industry and commerce forward to greater and greater profits, although at present, some of those wheels seem to be falling off.
Does life have to be like this?
Is there another way?
Well, yes there is. Life really can be so much better than hurrying from one job just to tackle the next. To be able to enjoy the experience of every moment, every task we do, is a truly rewarding goal to aim for. Admittedly it is unlikely to be achieved in its entirety as taking the rough with the smooth makes us appreciate the smooth so much more. But if we have the correct attitude then even the hard times will be viewed as a learning curve that is well worth the effort of working through. And to aim to get something from every moment gives our lives hope, inspiration and motivation.
“What is life if full of care, we take no time to stand and stare?”
This famous line is so true. There is so much around us that is so beautiful, yet we barely notice. God has created a world so full of abundance yet very few people appreciate it. Although this is the world of our creator, he has given it for all of us to enjoy. We all can have the lives that we want if we dream big and totally believe and have the confidence that we can achieve this.
Life is not a dress rehearsal. We only have one life on this earth (as far as we know) so why not make the most of it?
So many people have fear; the fear to dream and take action to achieve those dreams. It takes belief, self confidence and a great desire to go for those dreams.
That belief may be in your self; the total confidence that you have the ability to reach the pinnacle of your personal mountain. Others have the absolute faith that God will help create the lives that they want and deserve. With complete gratitude, they know that God will show them the way to experience all the abundance that he has placed on this earth.
Wherever the belief comes from lives can change dramatically for the better. It won’t happen over night. Packing in a job that pays the mortgage and the bills before creating a better path will be considered by most to be foolhardy; although some have taken that drastic action and gotten away with it. Having the self confidence or the belief that god will shine a light on the path to follow will eventually lead to the life that is dreamed of.
Belief, optimism, confidence, self esteem, inspiration and motivation are all positive qualities that will lead to a life of abundance.
Terry Norrington
www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.com
Friday, 16 January 2009
How to See The World in All It's Glory
There seems to be some people who are blessed. They are vibrant and happy; the glowing companion linked to their arm and abundance seems to flow into their lives. So why does life always appear good for them yet for others misery seems to follow with every step they take?
I was with two colleagues today; Sid and Steve. Sid is happy go lucky, a colourful character who has experienced a lot of life’s ups and downs. He is a great example of the phrase “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know”. He lives off of his wits and always seems to find that extra buck or two. Despite being obviously very street wise, he does attend church and appreciates a spiritual side within himself.
Steve is a worker. He does work hard yet always seems to be just keeping his head above the financial waters. Although he doesn’t constantly moan about his problems there are many hints and signs that he is tremendously concerned about his money situation.
We had two conversations of note during the course of the day; the first was when Steve stated that “I can’t see the point in religion. It only causes all the troubles in the world. It seems that people who don’t believe, like atheists, are the ones that are peaceful”.
The first thing that I pointed out was that the troubles are caused in the name of religion. It isn’t the religions themselves that cause the issues. Fundamentalists; people with such a deep beliefs in their teachings that they cannot accept other faiths, races and points of views seem to be at the heart of the troubles. The mainstream religions of this world have one common theme. They all believe in one creator. We may have differing guidelines on how to worship our creator and how to practice our religions but that one common link should be what binds us together and allow us to live in harmony with each other.
Secondly, I focussed on the Islamic faith. I don’t profess to know much about the religion but I hear many times that this is a very peaceful religion that denounces any form of violence. Any atrocity caused in the name of Islam is really so far removed from their teachings. Unfortunately within any race or creed; even amongst the atheists, there are good people and there are bad. It is a sign of the times that the world’s media only focuses on the bad.
It is an indication of Steve’s thought patterns that he had chosen to start a conversation on a real negative. This was even more noticeable with the statement he made later on in the day.
“I’ll be glad when this year is over”.
Considering that, at the time of writing we are only into the third week of January, this took Sid and me a little by surprise.
“Why’s that then?” I asked
He went on to point out that we were doing a horrible job (his words were a bit more flavoursome than that), and that the recession was really getting him down.
Admittedly the job wasn’t likely to be classified as our favourite, but I felt the need to express the notion that sometimes we need to experience the rough to truly enjoy the smooth.
With regards to the credit crunch I asked him
“What can you do about it?”
“Well nothing” he replied.
“Exactly” I countered. “So why keep thinking about it. Concentrate on what you can do to work around it”.
I then highlighted that the world is a beautiful place. Continuously seeing it as a dark, horribly place; one full of misery will lead to his world being one of misery. Conversely, choosing to see it for what it really is, a wonderful place full of abundance will mean a life that god wants us to experience, full of the abundances that he has put here for us to enjoy.
Undoubtedly there will be harder times than others. If we decide to see the world in its full glory, those harder times will be so much easier to handle, obstacles so much easier to overcome.
Sid pointed out that if we visualise life like a steeplechase race, we have hurdles to straddle. If we view the world with tremendous optimism and confidence we will jump the hurdles. If we see our planet as a world full of darkness we are going to clip those hurdles and fall over. Worst still, we will probably run straight into them.
Sid obviously had a better grasp on how to view his world and consequently experiences a lot more of the good that is out there.
We can all decide to see the world in a positive light; full of hope and optimism. It is our choice and we don’t have to let other people’s negativity cloud our vision. It doesn’t come easy, but catching ourselves thinking negative thoughts is a start. Substituting those thoughts with ones of vibrancy, abundance, happiness and tranquillity and then truly believing that we deserve these riches, will, eventually, develop us into those that have and not those that have not.
Terry Norrington
www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.co.uk
I was with two colleagues today; Sid and Steve. Sid is happy go lucky, a colourful character who has experienced a lot of life’s ups and downs. He is a great example of the phrase “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know”. He lives off of his wits and always seems to find that extra buck or two. Despite being obviously very street wise, he does attend church and appreciates a spiritual side within himself.
Steve is a worker. He does work hard yet always seems to be just keeping his head above the financial waters. Although he doesn’t constantly moan about his problems there are many hints and signs that he is tremendously concerned about his money situation.
We had two conversations of note during the course of the day; the first was when Steve stated that “I can’t see the point in religion. It only causes all the troubles in the world. It seems that people who don’t believe, like atheists, are the ones that are peaceful”.
The first thing that I pointed out was that the troubles are caused in the name of religion. It isn’t the religions themselves that cause the issues. Fundamentalists; people with such a deep beliefs in their teachings that they cannot accept other faiths, races and points of views seem to be at the heart of the troubles. The mainstream religions of this world have one common theme. They all believe in one creator. We may have differing guidelines on how to worship our creator and how to practice our religions but that one common link should be what binds us together and allow us to live in harmony with each other.
Secondly, I focussed on the Islamic faith. I don’t profess to know much about the religion but I hear many times that this is a very peaceful religion that denounces any form of violence. Any atrocity caused in the name of Islam is really so far removed from their teachings. Unfortunately within any race or creed; even amongst the atheists, there are good people and there are bad. It is a sign of the times that the world’s media only focuses on the bad.
It is an indication of Steve’s thought patterns that he had chosen to start a conversation on a real negative. This was even more noticeable with the statement he made later on in the day.
“I’ll be glad when this year is over”.
Considering that, at the time of writing we are only into the third week of January, this took Sid and me a little by surprise.
“Why’s that then?” I asked
He went on to point out that we were doing a horrible job (his words were a bit more flavoursome than that), and that the recession was really getting him down.
Admittedly the job wasn’t likely to be classified as our favourite, but I felt the need to express the notion that sometimes we need to experience the rough to truly enjoy the smooth.
With regards to the credit crunch I asked him
“What can you do about it?”
“Well nothing” he replied.
“Exactly” I countered. “So why keep thinking about it. Concentrate on what you can do to work around it”.
I then highlighted that the world is a beautiful place. Continuously seeing it as a dark, horribly place; one full of misery will lead to his world being one of misery. Conversely, choosing to see it for what it really is, a wonderful place full of abundance will mean a life that god wants us to experience, full of the abundances that he has put here for us to enjoy.
Undoubtedly there will be harder times than others. If we decide to see the world in its full glory, those harder times will be so much easier to handle, obstacles so much easier to overcome.
Sid pointed out that if we visualise life like a steeplechase race, we have hurdles to straddle. If we view the world with tremendous optimism and confidence we will jump the hurdles. If we see our planet as a world full of darkness we are going to clip those hurdles and fall over. Worst still, we will probably run straight into them.
Sid obviously had a better grasp on how to view his world and consequently experiences a lot more of the good that is out there.
We can all decide to see the world in a positive light; full of hope and optimism. It is our choice and we don’t have to let other people’s negativity cloud our vision. It doesn’t come easy, but catching ourselves thinking negative thoughts is a start. Substituting those thoughts with ones of vibrancy, abundance, happiness and tranquillity and then truly believing that we deserve these riches, will, eventually, develop us into those that have and not those that have not.
Terry Norrington
www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.co.uk
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