We all have an image of ourselves. If that image is a positive one, our self esteem will be good. We will have motivation to achieve, combined with optimism and hope for the future. Certainly the most successful people in life have a great, positive self image that attracts success. These men and women will hold themselves with confidence and poise, exuding a successful lifestyle.
For so many others, that image of themselves isn’t so good. They see themselves as being fat or unsuccessful, their vision being of a person with no confidence or deserving of no worth at all. These beliefs are embedded deep within their subconscious mind and it becomes so difficult to turn their lives around. Their self image is turned into a “self fulfilling prophecy” and they are then that fat person or the unsuccessful one.
The identity we create for ourselves come from three sources,
The experiences we have had in our lives and how we have perceived them.
Outside programming; in other words what people say or have said about us.
What we say and think about ourselves.
In order to change the circumstances, the individual must first want to change their situation. The desire to change must also be strong. Half hearted attempts at remodelling their lives will more than likely end up in failure. http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
The next step is to re-think the person they are. Re-invent themselves. One reason that so many diets fail is because the person sees themselves as being fat. They may well be carrying to much weight but having the self image of a fat person makes the subconscious mind do all it can to keep the body fat. The diet becomes extremely difficult to stick to and cravings for high calorie food are then hard to resist.
A self image of a slim person needs to be created in the mind for dieting to stand a better chance of being successful. Re-invent that self image. By making affirmations that they are slim and beautiful and acting likewise will get the subconscious mind working to create that desired shape, the body they so want.
It is exactly the same with abundance. An image of poverty and a life lacking success will bring exactly that; a lack of abundance and success. To alter the situation one most first re-invent themselves: change the self imagery to one of abundance and success which will develop a greater self esteem. http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
The story that people tell about themselves must change. It is all very well being self deprecating but if those words are being believed then the image one has of themselves will be poor. It doesn’t mean that people should start bragging and tell others that they are thin when they have obviously still got some weight to lose. But to themselves, the self talk must be positive and the story should be saying that they are already the person they want to be.
Being surrounded by people who can only criticise is the most demoralising of situations. Constructive criticism from informed people is obviously necessary for progress to be made but this needs to be outweighed by encouragement and praise for self image and self esteem to be boosted. For those that find themselves in the company of people who seem to always express negative opinions, the time has probably come to change the people they mix with. One must set the standards for outside programming, determining what level of criticism they can accept without affecting their positive self image.
For those that suffer a negative self image, re-inventing themselves will do amazing things for their self esteem, motivation, inspiration and self confidence.
Terry Norrington
http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
http://whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.com
www.2knowmyself.com
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