Why is it that people start fights?
Possibly because of somebodys ego. That somebody will have probably thought that they didn’t get the respect that they deserved. This welled up anger inside them enough to thump the other person. Their ego provides the motivation for a fight.
Some people spend a good part of their lives in fights purely because others don’t have the same high regard for them as they have of themselves. Their ego is inflated, becoming so large it becomes fragile. Others around them cannot possibly keep providing the fuel to keep this ego so well inflated. http://www.2knowmyself.com/
Egos can also be deflated, particularly when a person believes that they aren’t as successful as they ought to be. This can bring on the onset of depression. We all have a sense of worthiness, even those who suffer from an inferiority complex. The problem comes when an ego is so great that life just becomes one of pain and mental suffering.
Why do some companies have such a tremendous desire to build huge, tall buildings?
Do they really use all that space in these skyscrapers?
Well some do, but others are built to satisfy the egos of the company directors. The skyscraper is a symbol of how demanding an ego can be. We all try, in our own way, to build skyscrapers. In a positive manner, some of us look to become leaders or build financial success which in turn boosts our self confidence and self esteem. On the negative front, a minority will cause wars and tremendous suffering, all in the name of power and a desire to boost an ego.
Unfortunately skyscrapers sometimes fail to get built or come crashing down. As was mentioned earlier, this failure can lead to depression. How deep and severe the depression can be equates to the difference between ambition driven by ego and the current level of achievement.
How many people remain in unhealthy relationships because of their ego?
They continue to put up a front, creating to the world an impression that life is perfectly rosy in their relationship. Despite the underlying unhappiness, these people refuse to remove themselves from the relationship because of what others might think of them. Frightened perhaps that others may not see them as being normal because they are not part of a couple.
So how do we let go of this gremlin called an ego?
Despite not trying to preach religion, a belief in God certainly can help. God ultimately controls everything and in a roundabout way that includes us. Yes we make choices, but it is God who provides these choices, those opportunities and the tools with which to use to reach our goals. Take away some of these tools and we wouldn’t be the person we are today.
God doesn’t just give us everything we desire directly; he doesn’t plant that tree in our gardens that money grows on (despite what my wife and kids might think). But he does give us the tools to create the things that we desire. He gives us our minds, produces opportunities and creates those chance meetings with people who provide us with knowledge and inspiration.
These tools are responsible for our current identity and achievements. If we find that our egos are as inflated as a hot air balloon, we shouldn’t knock ourselves for it; just ask God to provide the tools that we need to develop the motivation, optimism and self confidence to achieve our dreams.
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
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