Unleash That Belief in Your Self and Create the Magic of Self Confidence

Why is it that some seem to have limited potential?

Why is “the sky’s the limit” for some people and not for others?

Why do some people struggle to get on in life?

Largely it is down to belief. Our core beliefs about ourselves and our confidence determine how we react to life and the circumstances that arise. For many years animals used to be a major attraction in circuses (not so much now thank goodness). The elephant was a star attraction at many of these performances having been tamed from birth. An animal the size of an elephant has the potential to cause chaos if it was able to escape. But as babies they were chained to heavy iron balls making it almost impossible to break free. As time goes on the elephant begins to believe that it is incapable of escaping even once it is released from the burden of that heavy iron ball. The belief system of the elephant is now one of captivity.

Human beings are very much like that baby elephant, weighed down by their false beliefs, beliefs that have been created by unwitting comments of trustworthy people.

We’re too old to learn a new sport. You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.
I can’t get a decent job. I’m no good for the jobs market.
Nobody gets everything in life.
You have no time for activities once you’re married.
I can’t quit smoking.
I’m never lucky.

Do some of these phrases sound familiar?

Robert and Charles used to play football together. Robert was brought up to believe that you can’t have everything in life that you want. By coincidence they both had an interview for the same job. The job entailed working 12 hours per day, 6 days per week. Robert, believing that he couldn’t have everything in life, took the job and quitted his regular game of football. Charles, on the other hand, decided to decline the job, believing that a position that better suited his schedule would soon come along. Robert gradually became depressed with the situation, and all motivation and inspiration drifted away. He felt that there was something missing in his life and after a year he quit the job.

So many people are held back by false beliefs. They think that they are fine as they are even though they have the ability to advance in life. These people don’t bother to learn new skills’ thinking that this is all life has to offer.

Many others will quit sport or a favourite leisure activity believing that marriage and a career is life consuming; like Robert believing that it is impossible to have everything in life that they want.

How many people do we know that won’t start new relationships, their self confidence destroyed by a previous broken relationship? They somehow believe that they have lost their “soul mate” and will not be suitable for anybody else.

So how does one break away from these false beliefs that are anchoring us down and preventing us from sailing to the port of success?

We must test the opinions of others. If we find ourselves failing to take an exam because someone has said it is too hard, take that exam for yourself. After all, that person is unlikely to have the same skill set as us.

If you are told that a box is too heavy to lift, don’t take that person’s word for it. Go and try it yourself (but be careful not to strain your back in the process. I don’t want the Health and Safety Executive coming down on me).

Henry Ford once said,

“If you think you can do a thing or think that you can’t do a thing, you are right”.

Your beliefs and self confidence will make you the person you want to be. Believe it.

Terry Norrington

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