Self confidence is required in so many fields of life but another quality that is a must in business is leadership. If you run your own business or head a department, even manage a large organisation, the people beneath you in the chain of command will look to you for leadership, inspiration and self confidence.
So what must we have to be a great, inspiring leader?
1. An extraordinary vision is definitely required. A leader has big dreams and motivates his team with those dreams. His communication skills convey emotion, continuously accentuating the positives to drive forward the business or project. Leaders are forward thinkers, seeing what doesn’t exist at present and then visualising it as existing with the sole aim of making it a reality. Their dreams will always be larger than those of the rest of the team; they have to be to create that magical inspiration and self confidence of the team.
2. A leader will have an attitude far more positive than those that he leads. They continuously have powerful thoughts and his manner is always upbeat with self confidence. It is so necessary to always show positivism and self confidence. Both positive and negative thoughts can be contagious yet negativity can spread so much more easily than positive ness. It is therefore so essential to remain positive, never allowing yourself to make criticism about the company, management or product. An organisation can so easily be weakened or destroyed by one critical remark (remember the Gerald Ratner effect).
3. How approachable are you for your team if you are always right, never ready to admit mistakes. Nobody is ever likely to make suggestions if they think that they are not going to make a difference. And when things go wrong, where should the buck stop? With the leader of course; the leader is responsible for the success of the organisation or project. A great leader will see the harm that can be caused by shifting blame onto others and will instead place him/herself in the firing line for criticism. Learning from your mistakes builds self confidence plus admitting them earns the respect of those around you
4. A leader has to be a decision maker. Lacking decisiveness and self confidence can be so frustrating for a team. They need to depend on those that can make a decision so they in turn can have a direction to follow. A manager is always concerned about doing things correctly whilst a leader is more concerned about doing the correct thing. It is impossible to always make the right choices but the important thing is that you are making them and making them for the right reasons. As long as lessons are learned, experience combined with self confidence will determine that more and more correct decisions are made in the future.
5. Those that lead will always put those that they lead first. By putting others before your own interest, will gain the trust and confidence of the team. By looking out for their best interests, your crew will work harder knowing that you want them to succeed. This in turn will build your self confidence as a great leader.
6. The best way to be a leader is to show how it can be done. To prove that you have the skills necessary will really gain the respect of your team. Yes, if the team is particularly large you will most likely not have the skills required in every department, but you should certainly have enough wherewithal to demonstrate to the people immediately beneath you. There has been recently a programme on British television where the owners or Managing Directors of organisations go back to the shop floor to tackle and see for themselves the tasks undertaken by the productive staff. This exercise usually demonstrates their lack of abilities in this field, but being involved and showing a willingness to understand the needs of their workers nearly always gains them respect. It also helps build their self confidence in order to run the business more effectively.
7. By doing the right thing and having pride in your team, confidence in you as a leader will be built in your team at every level. Upon you, all the hopes and desires of your team will be on your shoulders. As a leader you must show a hundred percent commitment to honesty and truthfulness. By being honest and true you know that everything you do and every decision you make is entirely for the right reasons and does wonders for your self confidence in the process. A leader must seriously consider making this his/hers number one priority.
8. There is no place for inferior workmanship or performance from a leader. Your attitude to appearance and courtesy plus a total dedication to excellence will mark you down for success or failure. Your team will only look up to you if this attitude is at a level above theirs. If you can only mark yourself as an 8 in this area, only the people whose attitude is 7 or below will look up to you as a leader. By striving for a perfect 10 not only gives you the respect of all your team members it creates the desire to do everything to the best of your ability and enhances your self confidence in the process.
9. Self confidence is a part of personal growth. But so is the need to understand your business and constantly keep on top of new developments within your industry. The University of Life teaches us something new every day and if we are not prepared to learn the lessons, how can you expect your team to. The business, like your knowledge, will fail to grow. It is so necessary to grow personally as nobody likes to be around a leader who is just prepared to stand still. That would be a sure fire way of loosing some valuable members of your crew. Be positive and be prepared to learn and you along with your self confidence will grow enormously.
Whilst it is said that many great leaders are born, many more can develop the self confidence and skills for leadership. If you have the strong desire to succeed and you need a highly motivated body of men and women behind you, you can and must create those leadership qualities. Self confidence is an extremely important attribute required for success, but also is leadership, the power and ability to lead and inspire others to greatness.
How fantastic is that?
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.com/index.htm#terryn1
Tuesday 14 April 2009
Monday 13 April 2009
Stand Tall with Self Confidence
Communication applies to us all. To provide inspiration and motivation to others we must be able to communicate and communicate with self confidence. Most of us will consider the most important part of our communication to be speech. The ability to express our words certainly will be an inspiration and motivation to others particularly if delivered in an enthusiastic and engaging way.
Yet the truth is that only 45% of effective communication is verbal. Although others hear your words, they also receive signals generated by our body language. It is body language that provides the other 55% of effective communication. Thus when we are trying to convey a message to somebody else, we must be conscious that our body is telling the same story as our voice.
Most people, except perhaps the really insecure, find self confidence to be an attractive quality and the body will demonstrate a great deal about whether someone possess that fantastic quality called self confidence.
So what are the posturing signals that give off self confidence vibrations?
Standing with hands behind our backs demonstrates a naturally self confident person or at least somebody who is on top of a situation.
Clasping hands in front of our stomachs is a stance that you will normally see being taken by world leaders during press conferences and speeches.
Finger tips of both hands touching each other
Standing upright with both feet firmly placed upon the ground.
Walking with long strides shows somebody with purpose, someone who is ready to take on new challenges.
Being someone who refuses to panic when mistakes happen.
Sitting with one leg crossed over the other and hands clasped behind our heads tends to show an air of superiority and over confidence. We do use this posture sometimes when we have completed a difficult task of finished a hard exam but care has to be taken as others may consider this to be impolite.
That great quality of self confidence can be seen by all and attracts many people to those that possess it. Inspiration and motivation radiate from these people providing optimism that everybody can attain this quality too.
How fantastic is that?
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
Yet the truth is that only 45% of effective communication is verbal. Although others hear your words, they also receive signals generated by our body language. It is body language that provides the other 55% of effective communication. Thus when we are trying to convey a message to somebody else, we must be conscious that our body is telling the same story as our voice.
Most people, except perhaps the really insecure, find self confidence to be an attractive quality and the body will demonstrate a great deal about whether someone possess that fantastic quality called self confidence.
So what are the posturing signals that give off self confidence vibrations?
Standing with hands behind our backs demonstrates a naturally self confident person or at least somebody who is on top of a situation.
Clasping hands in front of our stomachs is a stance that you will normally see being taken by world leaders during press conferences and speeches.
Finger tips of both hands touching each other
Standing upright with both feet firmly placed upon the ground.
Walking with long strides shows somebody with purpose, someone who is ready to take on new challenges.
Being someone who refuses to panic when mistakes happen.
Sitting with one leg crossed over the other and hands clasped behind our heads tends to show an air of superiority and over confidence. We do use this posture sometimes when we have completed a difficult task of finished a hard exam but care has to be taken as others may consider this to be impolite.
That great quality of self confidence can be seen by all and attracts many people to those that possess it. Inspiration and motivation radiate from these people providing optimism that everybody can attain this quality too.
How fantastic is that?
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
Friday 10 April 2009
Meaning of Success
There seems to be some people who are blessed. They are vibrant and happy; the glowing companion linked to their arm and abundance seems to flow into their lives. So why does life always appear good for them yet for others misery seems to follow with every step they take?
I was with two colleagues today; Sid and Steve. Sid is happy go lucky, a colourful character who has experienced a lot of life’s ups and downs. He is a great example of the phrase “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know”. He lives off of his wits and always seems to find that extra buck or two. Despite being obviously very street wise, he does attend church and appreciates a spiritual side within himself.
Steve is a worker. He does work hard yet always seems to be just keeping his head above the financial waters. Although he doesn’t constantly moan about his problems there are many hints and signs that he is tremendously concerned about his money situation.
We had two conversations of note during the course of the day; the first was when Steve stated that “I can’t see the point in religion. It only causes all the troubles in the world. It seems that people who don’t believe, like atheists, are the ones that are peaceful”.
The first thing that I pointed out was that the troubles are caused in the name of religion. It isn’t the religions themselves that cause the issues. Fundamentalists; people with such a deep beliefs in their teachings that they cannot accept other faiths, races and points of views seem to be at the heart of the troubles. The mainstream religions of this world have one common theme. They all believe in one creator. We may have differing guidelines on how to worship our creator and how to practice our religions but that one common link should be what binds us together and allow us to live in harmony with each other.
Secondly, I focussed on the Islamic faith. I don’t profess to know much about the religion but I hear many times that this is a very peaceful religion that denounces any form of violence. Any atrocity caused in the name of Islam is really so far removed from their teachings. Unfortunately within any race or creed; even amongst the atheists, there are good people and there are bad. It is a sign of the times that the world’s media only focuses on the bad.
It is an indication of Steve’s thought patterns that he had chosen to start a conversation on a real negative. This was even more noticeable with the statement he made later on in the day.
“I’ll be glad when this year is over”.
Considering that, at the time of writing we are only into the third week of January, this took Sid and me a little by surprise.
“Why’s that then?” I asked
He went on to point out that we were doing a horrible job (his words were a bit more flavoursome than that), and that the recession was really getting him down.
Admittedly the job wasn’t likely to be classified as our favourite, but I felt the need to express the notion that sometimes we need to experience the rough to truly enjoy the smooth.
With regards to the credit crunch I asked him
“What can you do about it?”
“Well nothing” he replied.
“Exactly” I countered. “So why keep thinking about it. Concentrate on what you can do to work around it”.
I then highlighted that the world is a beautiful place. Continuously seeing it as a dark, horribly place; one full of misery will lead to his world being one of misery. Conversely, choosing to see it for what it really is, a wonderful place full of abundance will mean a life that god wants us to experience, full of the abundances that he has put here for us to enjoy.
Undoubtedly there will be harder times than others. If we decide to see the world in its full glory, those harder times will be so much easier to handle, obstacles so much easier to overcome.
Sid pointed out that if we visualise life like a steeplechase race, we have hurdles to straddle. If we view the world with tremendous optimism and confidence we will jump the hurdles. If we see our planet as a world full of darkness we are going to clip those hurdles and fall over. Worst still, we will probably run straight into them.
Sid obviously had a better grasp on how to view his world and consequently experiences a lot more of the good that is out there.
We can all decide to see the world in a positive light; full of hope and optimism. It is our choice and we don’t have to let other people’s negativity cloud our vision. It doesn’t come easy, but catching ourselves thinking negative thoughts is a start. Substituting those thoughts with ones of vibrancy, abundance, happiness and tranquillity and then truly believing that we deserve these riches, will, eventually, develop us into those that have and not those that have not.
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index#terryn1
I was with two colleagues today; Sid and Steve. Sid is happy go lucky, a colourful character who has experienced a lot of life’s ups and downs. He is a great example of the phrase “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know”. He lives off of his wits and always seems to find that extra buck or two. Despite being obviously very street wise, he does attend church and appreciates a spiritual side within himself.
Steve is a worker. He does work hard yet always seems to be just keeping his head above the financial waters. Although he doesn’t constantly moan about his problems there are many hints and signs that he is tremendously concerned about his money situation.
We had two conversations of note during the course of the day; the first was when Steve stated that “I can’t see the point in religion. It only causes all the troubles in the world. It seems that people who don’t believe, like atheists, are the ones that are peaceful”.
The first thing that I pointed out was that the troubles are caused in the name of religion. It isn’t the religions themselves that cause the issues. Fundamentalists; people with such a deep beliefs in their teachings that they cannot accept other faiths, races and points of views seem to be at the heart of the troubles. The mainstream religions of this world have one common theme. They all believe in one creator. We may have differing guidelines on how to worship our creator and how to practice our religions but that one common link should be what binds us together and allow us to live in harmony with each other.
Secondly, I focussed on the Islamic faith. I don’t profess to know much about the religion but I hear many times that this is a very peaceful religion that denounces any form of violence. Any atrocity caused in the name of Islam is really so far removed from their teachings. Unfortunately within any race or creed; even amongst the atheists, there are good people and there are bad. It is a sign of the times that the world’s media only focuses on the bad.
It is an indication of Steve’s thought patterns that he had chosen to start a conversation on a real negative. This was even more noticeable with the statement he made later on in the day.
“I’ll be glad when this year is over”.
Considering that, at the time of writing we are only into the third week of January, this took Sid and me a little by surprise.
“Why’s that then?” I asked
He went on to point out that we were doing a horrible job (his words were a bit more flavoursome than that), and that the recession was really getting him down.
Admittedly the job wasn’t likely to be classified as our favourite, but I felt the need to express the notion that sometimes we need to experience the rough to truly enjoy the smooth.
With regards to the credit crunch I asked him
“What can you do about it?”
“Well nothing” he replied.
“Exactly” I countered. “So why keep thinking about it. Concentrate on what you can do to work around it”.
I then highlighted that the world is a beautiful place. Continuously seeing it as a dark, horribly place; one full of misery will lead to his world being one of misery. Conversely, choosing to see it for what it really is, a wonderful place full of abundance will mean a life that god wants us to experience, full of the abundances that he has put here for us to enjoy.
Undoubtedly there will be harder times than others. If we decide to see the world in its full glory, those harder times will be so much easier to handle, obstacles so much easier to overcome.
Sid pointed out that if we visualise life like a steeplechase race, we have hurdles to straddle. If we view the world with tremendous optimism and confidence we will jump the hurdles. If we see our planet as a world full of darkness we are going to clip those hurdles and fall over. Worst still, we will probably run straight into them.
Sid obviously had a better grasp on how to view his world and consequently experiences a lot more of the good that is out there.
We can all decide to see the world in a positive light; full of hope and optimism. It is our choice and we don’t have to let other people’s negativity cloud our vision. It doesn’t come easy, but catching ourselves thinking negative thoughts is a start. Substituting those thoughts with ones of vibrancy, abundance, happiness and tranquillity and then truly believing that we deserve these riches, will, eventually, develop us into those that have and not those that have not.
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index#terryn1
Wednesday 8 April 2009
Decisions, Decisions. How to Make the Right Choice with Self Confidence
Making decisions comes naturally to some and not to others. Self confidence plays a major part in somebody’s ability to make quick decisions. Once made, a decision will provide energy and motivation to make that decision the right one.
But how do we know if we have made the right decision?
Ultimately, nobody has a crystal ball. But there are several things that we can call upon to make the best decision possible.
Information
To the best of our ability we need to do our homework about a subject. Find out as much about the problem or answer that you need to make as possible. This may take time and sometimes we don’t have the time we would like to research the point in question. Fortunately with the aid of today’s technology, finding answers to our queries can be a lot quicker and easier. Although it may not be easy, if we can push for as much time as possible to do our homework, the decision is more likely to be an informed one.
Experience
Quick decisions can be made if we have experienced the situation before. We know the pitfalls and the likely outcomes because we have seen similar circumstances in the past. Experience is a wonderful thing because it often means we can do things on auto pilot. We make decisions daily and even hourly yet we probably don’t realise it because they are decisions we make without giving a second thought, based on the fact that we have been along this road many times before.
Seek Advice
Along with doing our homework comes seeking advice. Making milestone decisions on a particular point which we have no experience will work out much more in our favour if we speak to people who are expert in the field or at least have experience of the point in question. Some advice may come at a price. Legal or financial advice will probably cost but will be worth it in the long run if it points us in the right direction. It’s surprising how so many people will not ask for advice. It dents their pride to think that they don’t know all the answers or cannot work the answer out for themselves. Others just don’t like to burden folk with their problems believing that they have enough of their own. Yet we all like to be needed. We all like to think that we have something valuable to contribute, so are very often happy to give our advice, and for free.
Gut Instinct
Sometimes a decision just feels right. That new house we are after, we can’t put our finger on why, but it just feels like the right place. It’s giving off the right vibrations. That business deal we are trying to clinch, it just seems like the right decision to make. Unfortunately, when speed is of the essence, we need to make a decision straight away and we don’t have time to do the homework. We may just have to go on gut instinct. But if it doesn’t feel right, if there are any doubts, do not go through with it. Experience can provide a terrific grounding for gut instinct. Deep in the subconscious mind we may be recalling a previous similar situation and although the clarity isn’t there, the feelings are coming through via our subconscious mind.
The hard part of using gut instinct is appreciating when it is saying “no”. We can be left with the question, are we saying “no” because our gut instinct is saying so or is the answer “no” coming from fear, fear of stepping outside our comfort zone?
This is when homework, experience and seeking advice will help determine whether it is gut instinct or fear that is holding us back.
Entrepreneurs and business people are extremely good at making quick decisions. As they become more experienced the right decisions are made more frequently. We all make mistakes and if we make the wrong choice, we have to view it is part of the learning process. Making the correct choice will become easier as we learn and absorb more. Then we will have the self confidence, inspiration and optimism to go forward believing that we are making the right decisions.
How fantastic is that?
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
But how do we know if we have made the right decision?
Ultimately, nobody has a crystal ball. But there are several things that we can call upon to make the best decision possible.
Information
To the best of our ability we need to do our homework about a subject. Find out as much about the problem or answer that you need to make as possible. This may take time and sometimes we don’t have the time we would like to research the point in question. Fortunately with the aid of today’s technology, finding answers to our queries can be a lot quicker and easier. Although it may not be easy, if we can push for as much time as possible to do our homework, the decision is more likely to be an informed one.
Experience
Quick decisions can be made if we have experienced the situation before. We know the pitfalls and the likely outcomes because we have seen similar circumstances in the past. Experience is a wonderful thing because it often means we can do things on auto pilot. We make decisions daily and even hourly yet we probably don’t realise it because they are decisions we make without giving a second thought, based on the fact that we have been along this road many times before.
Seek Advice
Along with doing our homework comes seeking advice. Making milestone decisions on a particular point which we have no experience will work out much more in our favour if we speak to people who are expert in the field or at least have experience of the point in question. Some advice may come at a price. Legal or financial advice will probably cost but will be worth it in the long run if it points us in the right direction. It’s surprising how so many people will not ask for advice. It dents their pride to think that they don’t know all the answers or cannot work the answer out for themselves. Others just don’t like to burden folk with their problems believing that they have enough of their own. Yet we all like to be needed. We all like to think that we have something valuable to contribute, so are very often happy to give our advice, and for free.
Gut Instinct
Sometimes a decision just feels right. That new house we are after, we can’t put our finger on why, but it just feels like the right place. It’s giving off the right vibrations. That business deal we are trying to clinch, it just seems like the right decision to make. Unfortunately, when speed is of the essence, we need to make a decision straight away and we don’t have time to do the homework. We may just have to go on gut instinct. But if it doesn’t feel right, if there are any doubts, do not go through with it. Experience can provide a terrific grounding for gut instinct. Deep in the subconscious mind we may be recalling a previous similar situation and although the clarity isn’t there, the feelings are coming through via our subconscious mind.
The hard part of using gut instinct is appreciating when it is saying “no”. We can be left with the question, are we saying “no” because our gut instinct is saying so or is the answer “no” coming from fear, fear of stepping outside our comfort zone?
This is when homework, experience and seeking advice will help determine whether it is gut instinct or fear that is holding us back.
Entrepreneurs and business people are extremely good at making quick decisions. As they become more experienced the right decisions are made more frequently. We all make mistakes and if we make the wrong choice, we have to view it is part of the learning process. Making the correct choice will become easier as we learn and absorb more. Then we will have the self confidence, inspiration and optimism to go forward believing that we are making the right decisions.
How fantastic is that?
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
Saturday 4 April 2009
Assertiveness and Self Confidence. The Perfect Win-Win Situation
Assertiveness is a fantastic quality to have and really enhances self confidence which in turn provides motivation to achieve the goals in life we most desire. Assertiveness is very much a word that is heard from people coaching personal development and is a subject that is preached in many a sales training course.
So what is this great attribute called assertiveness?
Can it be learned?
Answering the second question first; yes definitely it can be learned, if that person so desires to learn this skill.
The answer to the first question is slightly longer. Assertiveness is the ability to express upon others your emotions, principles and desires without treading on the other persons toes; infringing their rights and desires. This must be done without being aggressive. The opposite end of the scale is to be passive, where we would constantly say “yes” to others just to please and as a consequence we violate our own rights. Some people have explained assertiveness as the art of saying “no”. http://www.2knowmyself.com/
Assertiveness is about being in control, not showing anger when explaining what we want. It is the middle ground between aggression and passiveness. The relationship between aggression, passiveness and assertiveness was once explained as
Aggression – I win , you lose
Passiveness – I lose, you win
Assertiveness – I win, you win
A lack of assertiveness is a behavioural trait that has been learned to help deal with others, to earn their love or at the very least not to be spurned by them. For this we let go of our rights and create a fear of standing up for ourselves. A feeling of worthlessness comes from saying “yes” when we really want to say “no”. Self confidence can seriously be damaged in the process. But this can change if we make that decision to be assertive.
Unless we are dealing with an over sensitive person, in which case we do need to tread with care, people will admire assertiveness and self confidence. So how do we develop that great quality of assertiveness?
Let’s start with the techniques,
Whenever a favour is asked of us, ask the question, does this request contravene my interests, principles or obligations? If the answer is “yes”, say “no”.
Whenever our rights are trodden on we must stand up for ourselves. It matters not how small the infringement may be, letting an incident go will encourage the subconscious mind to behave the same way next time, and this may well be a greater betrayal of our rights. Constantly practice assertiveness will eventually make it second nature.
Use assertive body language. Body language can either support or contradict assertive behaviour. Standing erect with shoulders back, both feet firmly on the ground with no arms folded and using positive eye contact demonstrates assertiveness and self confidence.
Avoid aggressive behaviour. This will lead others to be resistive and hateful.
It also helps to remember some of these rules.
We all have the right to our own values, beliefs, emotions and opinions.
We have the right to justify and explain our actions to others.
We have the right to tell others how we wish to be treated.
We have the right to say “I don’t know”, “I don’t understand” and in particular, “no”.
We have the right to take the time required to develop our ideas before expressing them.
We have the right to make mistakes (although I hope we learn from them).
We have the right to stand up for ourselves and for what we want.
Particularly, we have the right to be treated with respect. http://www.2kowmyself.com/
Assertiveness is really about communication, in a fashion that is neither aggressive nor passive using both body language and carefully chosen words. Creating a win – win situation develops our own self confidence and motivation and instils inspiration and optimism in others. This is a sign of great leadership.
How fantastic is that?
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
So what is this great attribute called assertiveness?
Can it be learned?
Answering the second question first; yes definitely it can be learned, if that person so desires to learn this skill.
The answer to the first question is slightly longer. Assertiveness is the ability to express upon others your emotions, principles and desires without treading on the other persons toes; infringing their rights and desires. This must be done without being aggressive. The opposite end of the scale is to be passive, where we would constantly say “yes” to others just to please and as a consequence we violate our own rights. Some people have explained assertiveness as the art of saying “no”. http://www.2knowmyself.com/
Assertiveness is about being in control, not showing anger when explaining what we want. It is the middle ground between aggression and passiveness. The relationship between aggression, passiveness and assertiveness was once explained as
Aggression – I win , you lose
Passiveness – I lose, you win
Assertiveness – I win, you win
A lack of assertiveness is a behavioural trait that has been learned to help deal with others, to earn their love or at the very least not to be spurned by them. For this we let go of our rights and create a fear of standing up for ourselves. A feeling of worthlessness comes from saying “yes” when we really want to say “no”. Self confidence can seriously be damaged in the process. But this can change if we make that decision to be assertive.
Unless we are dealing with an over sensitive person, in which case we do need to tread with care, people will admire assertiveness and self confidence. So how do we develop that great quality of assertiveness?
Let’s start with the techniques,
Whenever a favour is asked of us, ask the question, does this request contravene my interests, principles or obligations? If the answer is “yes”, say “no”.
Whenever our rights are trodden on we must stand up for ourselves. It matters not how small the infringement may be, letting an incident go will encourage the subconscious mind to behave the same way next time, and this may well be a greater betrayal of our rights. Constantly practice assertiveness will eventually make it second nature.
Use assertive body language. Body language can either support or contradict assertive behaviour. Standing erect with shoulders back, both feet firmly on the ground with no arms folded and using positive eye contact demonstrates assertiveness and self confidence.
Avoid aggressive behaviour. This will lead others to be resistive and hateful.
It also helps to remember some of these rules.
We all have the right to our own values, beliefs, emotions and opinions.
We have the right to justify and explain our actions to others.
We have the right to tell others how we wish to be treated.
We have the right to say “I don’t know”, “I don’t understand” and in particular, “no”.
We have the right to take the time required to develop our ideas before expressing them.
We have the right to make mistakes (although I hope we learn from them).
We have the right to stand up for ourselves and for what we want.
Particularly, we have the right to be treated with respect. http://www.2kowmyself.com/
Assertiveness is really about communication, in a fashion that is neither aggressive nor passive using both body language and carefully chosen words. Creating a win – win situation develops our own self confidence and motivation and instils inspiration and optimism in others. This is a sign of great leadership.
How fantastic is that?
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
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