Forgiveness is a truly inspirational quality to have, admired by many, the examples of which should provide motivation to us all to practice forgiveness ourselves. Those wonderful reports of people who have lost loved ones under murderous circumstances, yet have still found it in their hearts to forgive the perpetrators.
How easy is it to forgive though, when hurt has penetrated deep inside and the feelings of revenge or justice are upper most in the heart? http://www.2knowmyself.com/
There are hundreds of articles written about forgiveness. Many of the great religions are founded upon forgiveness. They promise the feel good factor and experiences of inner peace if forgiveness is practiced. So words of forgiveness are expressed, wanting that calm to materialise inside, yet still, there is a little part that won’t let go of the hurt that is being felt.
Reading articles and opinions about forgiveness provides motivation in the short term but soon the old way of thinking starts to creep back in as the emotional pain rears its ugly head again.
The fact is we must try to unravel the underlying reasons for the feelings that prevent us practicing forgiveness. We must deal with our ego issues as these are the reasons for our bad feelings and the pain that we feel. http://www.2knowmyself.com/
Jealousy is a tremendously negative emotion that blocks the ability to forgive. Somebody gets the job you have tried so hard to get or that fantastic looking girl has gone off with another guy. It is so difficult to forgive the opposition when the green eyed monster of jealousy masks the truth.
Forgiveness is associated with strength and self confidence. People with self esteem and confidence crack on with their own lives and don’t get bogged down with what other people are doing. A lack of self confidence tends to make someone look for the faults in others and when somebody commits a crime against their moral judgement, this gives them a feeling of strength, believing that the perpetrator is a lesser person than they. Practicing forgiveness then relinquishes that position of strength.
When trying out a new venture there is normally some insecurity involved as one is learning the ropes and perhaps lacks the self belief that success can be achieved. So any criticism at this point can harbour much resentment. As time goes on and the venture becomes successful, self confidence and self esteem are far stronger and it is easier to look back at the criticism and forgive the person that has made the comments. They may even be viewed as actually having a point. http://2knowmyself.com/
To practice forgiveness we need to understand the real emotions that surround our pain. Jealousy, insecurity and a lack of self confidence will always sap our strength and thus our ability to forgive. By building up our emotional strength and self esteem we are far more able to practice that admirable quality of forgiveness and get on with our lives with hope, optimism and motivation.
How fantastic is that?
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
Friday 27 February 2009
Tuesday 24 February 2009
There's Nothing Like Being Stuck in the Toilet to Sink Your Self Esteem
There are probably many times when things go wrong and a lack of self esteem creeps in. Sometimes the problem can be so severe that you have your doubts about God being by our side helping us through the turmoil’s in life. God however does carry us through and we always come out the other end being the stronger for it.
I am about to introduce literally some toilet humour into this writing. It’s not intended to offend so please turn away now if this is not your thing.
I was using a public convenience the other day and it reminded me of a time some while ago when I was caught out. Now I know this will resonate with more than a few of you when I say that I was desperate to use the toilet on this particular occasion and rushed into a public convenience. After doing my business I went for the toilet paper. None there!!!
What do you do?
Well some of the alternatives would be:-
Search to see how much tissue you have in your pockets.
Wait until there is nobody about and then dart into another cubicle with your trousers around your ankles.
Call for help to see if somebody can get you some paper from another cubicle or an attendant.
Wait until you get home.
I’m sure there are hundreds of answers to this problem. In my case I did have enough tissue in my pockets to get me out of the mire. At times like this, panic could easily set in and we could end up wondering where the help is at this particular moment. But the truth is, answers are given, we do get ourselves out of sticky situations and two days later we are laughing about these with our friends.
As with all awkward and difficult situations there are lessons to be learned. There is no doubt that I will use public conveniences again in the future but the lesson that I have learned; CHECK TO SEE IF THERE IS ANY PAPER FIRST.
This is a light hearted look at problems. But so many problems in life are far more serious than this. Our self confidence, inspiration, optimism and hope can be knocked for six and there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel. At first, there is desperation; absolutely hating to be in this dark, horrible place, wanting more than anything to get out of this tunnel. But after a while you start treading carefully, feeling your way along the walls. Occasionally we may stumble over a bolder but our self confidence starts to grow now. The darkness seems to be more bearable as our eyes get accustomed to it and we can even make out some silhouettes of obstacles in our way.
God is on this journey with us, guiding us and holding our hand. Eventually he shows us the light, his light at the end of this particular tunnel.
And we have learned from this experience, so that we are not so afraid to take another trip along this tunnel, but we are wiser now, we recognise the barriers along the way and we can get to the end a lot faster.
If we believe in God, we never walk alone. We have hope in our hearts which creates optimism and motivation, inspiration and self confidence and the ability to overcome the most dire of circumstances.
How fantastic is that?
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
I am about to introduce literally some toilet humour into this writing. It’s not intended to offend so please turn away now if this is not your thing.
I was using a public convenience the other day and it reminded me of a time some while ago when I was caught out. Now I know this will resonate with more than a few of you when I say that I was desperate to use the toilet on this particular occasion and rushed into a public convenience. After doing my business I went for the toilet paper. None there!!!
What do you do?
Well some of the alternatives would be:-
Search to see how much tissue you have in your pockets.
Wait until there is nobody about and then dart into another cubicle with your trousers around your ankles.
Call for help to see if somebody can get you some paper from another cubicle or an attendant.
Wait until you get home.
I’m sure there are hundreds of answers to this problem. In my case I did have enough tissue in my pockets to get me out of the mire. At times like this, panic could easily set in and we could end up wondering where the help is at this particular moment. But the truth is, answers are given, we do get ourselves out of sticky situations and two days later we are laughing about these with our friends.
As with all awkward and difficult situations there are lessons to be learned. There is no doubt that I will use public conveniences again in the future but the lesson that I have learned; CHECK TO SEE IF THERE IS ANY PAPER FIRST.
This is a light hearted look at problems. But so many problems in life are far more serious than this. Our self confidence, inspiration, optimism and hope can be knocked for six and there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel. At first, there is desperation; absolutely hating to be in this dark, horrible place, wanting more than anything to get out of this tunnel. But after a while you start treading carefully, feeling your way along the walls. Occasionally we may stumble over a bolder but our self confidence starts to grow now. The darkness seems to be more bearable as our eyes get accustomed to it and we can even make out some silhouettes of obstacles in our way.
God is on this journey with us, guiding us and holding our hand. Eventually he shows us the light, his light at the end of this particular tunnel.
And we have learned from this experience, so that we are not so afraid to take another trip along this tunnel, but we are wiser now, we recognise the barriers along the way and we can get to the end a lot faster.
If we believe in God, we never walk alone. We have hope in our hearts which creates optimism and motivation, inspiration and self confidence and the ability to overcome the most dire of circumstances.
How fantastic is that?
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
Saturday 21 February 2009
See How Easily you Can Enjoy Your Evening with Self Confidence
Do you know who you are?
This may sound like a really peculiar question, but are you truly the person that you portray to the rest of the world. When you are out with friends do you try to be the life and soul of the party, always cracking jokes and making people laugh, appearing to be have extreme self confidence.
Perhaps you always act like the supremely tough person with self confidence, hoping to make others respect you by allowing them to think that you are somebody not to be messed with.
But is this your true nature or are you attempting to portray a false image?
It is human nature to be liked by everybody else. Very few people like to be hated or have others think ill of them. We prefer to have others think highly of us and act in a way that is going to promote a positive image of ourselves. This gives us self confidence and self esteem albeit temporarily while our friends play along with our acting.
Once you are away from the crowd you probably start to ask questions of yourself.
Did you make a fool of yourself?
Did you go over the top and make comments that offended someone?
Was you really true to yourself?
Perhaps your self confidence and image of yourself isn’t yet as highly developed as you would like. If it was you would have the belief that you are a decent person and your friends will accept you for the way you are.
How often before meeting friends for the evening do you rehearse the things you are likely to say?
How many jokes do you practice in your head just so you can spread some hilarity amongst the crowd?
Do you go over the tough sounding sound bytes to make your acquaintances look up to you?
All this can be quite emotionally draining and does nothing for your self confidence especially if things don’t go according to plan. Your evening could be ruined all for the sake of impressing others.
You need to be yourself. Deep down you know you are a good person. Have the self confidence and belief in yourself to be yourself. Others will respect you for it. By going out in the evening with the only plan being to be yourself you may actually start to enjoy yourself. It’s surprising how spontaneity can give you the quick and funny one liners without having to rehearse any lines. Getting into debates can be very interesting without having to plan them or make them come up in conversation. Just let them happen. By the end of the evening your friends will have seen the real you and they will be the happier for it because they are likely to have been more relaxed in your company; not having had to compete to keep up with you. Your self confidence will have been boosted to.
O.K. you may naturally be the witty guy full of the wise cracks. You may well be the hard man with the self confidence to be able to handle yourself. That is perfectly fine if that is the real you. But you decide. If you act in a way that is done only to impress others then stop.
Who is the most important person for you to impress?
It’s yourself. And you can only do this if you are true to yourself. We cannot be everything to everybody.
So why even try?
Although you can try to influence what others think, you cannot control what others think. What you can control is what you think. Concentrate on yourself. Look at what your principles are; the principles by which you try to live your life. Have the self confidence and belief that these principles are good ones. By acting according to these principles others will see the real you and this is what will gain their respect most of all.
It is not being said here that you can’t have a laugh and a joke, but don’t go out of your way to force it to happen. Let it happen naturally with spontaneity. It is much more fun that way.
Living your life according to what you believe in should be practiced twenty four hours a day. It isn’t difficult because this is the way you are naturally. Going against your principles is where the hard work is.
Study your principles. Have the self confidence that these principles are good and then be yourself living as best as you can according to these principles.
This is who you really are.
How fantastic is that?
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
This may sound like a really peculiar question, but are you truly the person that you portray to the rest of the world. When you are out with friends do you try to be the life and soul of the party, always cracking jokes and making people laugh, appearing to be have extreme self confidence.
Perhaps you always act like the supremely tough person with self confidence, hoping to make others respect you by allowing them to think that you are somebody not to be messed with.
But is this your true nature or are you attempting to portray a false image?
It is human nature to be liked by everybody else. Very few people like to be hated or have others think ill of them. We prefer to have others think highly of us and act in a way that is going to promote a positive image of ourselves. This gives us self confidence and self esteem albeit temporarily while our friends play along with our acting.
Once you are away from the crowd you probably start to ask questions of yourself.
Did you make a fool of yourself?
Did you go over the top and make comments that offended someone?
Was you really true to yourself?
Perhaps your self confidence and image of yourself isn’t yet as highly developed as you would like. If it was you would have the belief that you are a decent person and your friends will accept you for the way you are.
How often before meeting friends for the evening do you rehearse the things you are likely to say?
How many jokes do you practice in your head just so you can spread some hilarity amongst the crowd?
Do you go over the tough sounding sound bytes to make your acquaintances look up to you?
All this can be quite emotionally draining and does nothing for your self confidence especially if things don’t go according to plan. Your evening could be ruined all for the sake of impressing others.
You need to be yourself. Deep down you know you are a good person. Have the self confidence and belief in yourself to be yourself. Others will respect you for it. By going out in the evening with the only plan being to be yourself you may actually start to enjoy yourself. It’s surprising how spontaneity can give you the quick and funny one liners without having to rehearse any lines. Getting into debates can be very interesting without having to plan them or make them come up in conversation. Just let them happen. By the end of the evening your friends will have seen the real you and they will be the happier for it because they are likely to have been more relaxed in your company; not having had to compete to keep up with you. Your self confidence will have been boosted to.
O.K. you may naturally be the witty guy full of the wise cracks. You may well be the hard man with the self confidence to be able to handle yourself. That is perfectly fine if that is the real you. But you decide. If you act in a way that is done only to impress others then stop.
Who is the most important person for you to impress?
It’s yourself. And you can only do this if you are true to yourself. We cannot be everything to everybody.
So why even try?
Although you can try to influence what others think, you cannot control what others think. What you can control is what you think. Concentrate on yourself. Look at what your principles are; the principles by which you try to live your life. Have the self confidence and belief that these principles are good ones. By acting according to these principles others will see the real you and this is what will gain their respect most of all.
It is not being said here that you can’t have a laugh and a joke, but don’t go out of your way to force it to happen. Let it happen naturally with spontaneity. It is much more fun that way.
Living your life according to what you believe in should be practiced twenty four hours a day. It isn’t difficult because this is the way you are naturally. Going against your principles is where the hard work is.
Study your principles. Have the self confidence that these principles are good and then be yourself living as best as you can according to these principles.
This is who you really are.
How fantastic is that?
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
Thursday 19 February 2009
How You Can Walk Through a Storm with Hope and Optimism in Your Heart
There are many times when life gets us down. Life is hard, finances are tight or a relationship breaks up. We’ve all been there and we are left wondering where God was throughout these difficult times. Why did God not help us in our hour of need?
I find the verse “Footprints in the Sand” by Mary Stevenson such a poignant piece of work. For those that have never read it, I feel inspired to copy it for you here.
Footprints in the Sand
One night I had a dream.
I dreamed that I was walking along the beach with the Lord,
and across the sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene I noticed two sets of footprints,
One belonged to me and the other to the lord.
When the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that many times along the path of my life,
there was only one set of footprints.
I also noticed that it happened at the very lowest
and saddest times in my life.
This really bothered me and I questioned the Lord about it
“Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you,
you would walk with me all the way,
but I noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life
there is only one set of footprints.
I don’t understand why in my times when I needed you most,
you should leave me.”
The Lord replied “My precious, precious child,
I love you and would never, never leave you
during your times of trial and suffering.
When you saw only one set of footprints
it was then that I carried you.”
The truth is that God is always there by our sides and watches over us “for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health”. He is there for the good times as well as the bad. Whatever situation we find ourselves in, we come through it eventually and it is Gods guidance, his desire to carry us that brings us safely to the end of that particular journey in our lives.
Knowing that God holds our hands when we need him most helps us to walk through the storm with hope in our hearts believing that we will never walk alone.
We can always have motivation, inspiration, optimism, self confidence and self esteem when there is help by our sides.
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
I find the verse “Footprints in the Sand” by Mary Stevenson such a poignant piece of work. For those that have never read it, I feel inspired to copy it for you here.
Footprints in the Sand
One night I had a dream.
I dreamed that I was walking along the beach with the Lord,
and across the sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene I noticed two sets of footprints,
One belonged to me and the other to the lord.
When the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that many times along the path of my life,
there was only one set of footprints.
I also noticed that it happened at the very lowest
and saddest times in my life.
This really bothered me and I questioned the Lord about it
“Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you,
you would walk with me all the way,
but I noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life
there is only one set of footprints.
I don’t understand why in my times when I needed you most,
you should leave me.”
The Lord replied “My precious, precious child,
I love you and would never, never leave you
during your times of trial and suffering.
When you saw only one set of footprints
it was then that I carried you.”
The truth is that God is always there by our sides and watches over us “for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health”. He is there for the good times as well as the bad. Whatever situation we find ourselves in, we come through it eventually and it is Gods guidance, his desire to carry us that brings us safely to the end of that particular journey in our lives.
Knowing that God holds our hands when we need him most helps us to walk through the storm with hope in our hearts believing that we will never walk alone.
We can always have motivation, inspiration, optimism, self confidence and self esteem when there is help by our sides.
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
Tuesday 17 February 2009
Flippin' Heck That's a Big 'Un. What Is? Your Ego
Why is it that people start fights?
Possibly because of somebodys ego. That somebody will have probably thought that they didn’t get the respect that they deserved. This welled up anger inside them enough to thump the other person. Their ego provides the motivation for a fight.
Some people spend a good part of their lives in fights purely because others don’t have the same high regard for them as they have of themselves. Their ego is inflated, becoming so large it becomes fragile. Others around them cannot possibly keep providing the fuel to keep this ego so well inflated. http://www.2knowmyself.com/
Egos can also be deflated, particularly when a person believes that they aren’t as successful as they ought to be. This can bring on the onset of depression. We all have a sense of worthiness, even those who suffer from an inferiority complex. The problem comes when an ego is so great that life just becomes one of pain and mental suffering.
Why do some companies have such a tremendous desire to build huge, tall buildings?
Do they really use all that space in these skyscrapers?
Well some do, but others are built to satisfy the egos of the company directors. The skyscraper is a symbol of how demanding an ego can be. We all try, in our own way, to build skyscrapers. In a positive manner, some of us look to become leaders or build financial success which in turn boosts our self confidence and self esteem. On the negative front, a minority will cause wars and tremendous suffering, all in the name of power and a desire to boost an ego.
Unfortunately skyscrapers sometimes fail to get built or come crashing down. As was mentioned earlier, this failure can lead to depression. How deep and severe the depression can be equates to the difference between ambition driven by ego and the current level of achievement.
How many people remain in unhealthy relationships because of their ego?
They continue to put up a front, creating to the world an impression that life is perfectly rosy in their relationship. Despite the underlying unhappiness, these people refuse to remove themselves from the relationship because of what others might think of them. Frightened perhaps that others may not see them as being normal because they are not part of a couple.
So how do we let go of this gremlin called an ego?
Despite not trying to preach religion, a belief in God certainly can help. God ultimately controls everything and in a roundabout way that includes us. Yes we make choices, but it is God who provides these choices, those opportunities and the tools with which to use to reach our goals. Take away some of these tools and we wouldn’t be the person we are today.
God doesn’t just give us everything we desire directly; he doesn’t plant that tree in our gardens that money grows on (despite what my wife and kids might think). But he does give us the tools to create the things that we desire. He gives us our minds, produces opportunities and creates those chance meetings with people who provide us with knowledge and inspiration.
These tools are responsible for our current identity and achievements. If we find that our egos are as inflated as a hot air balloon, we shouldn’t knock ourselves for it; just ask God to provide the tools that we need to develop the motivation, optimism and self confidence to achieve our dreams.
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
Possibly because of somebodys ego. That somebody will have probably thought that they didn’t get the respect that they deserved. This welled up anger inside them enough to thump the other person. Their ego provides the motivation for a fight.
Some people spend a good part of their lives in fights purely because others don’t have the same high regard for them as they have of themselves. Their ego is inflated, becoming so large it becomes fragile. Others around them cannot possibly keep providing the fuel to keep this ego so well inflated. http://www.2knowmyself.com/
Egos can also be deflated, particularly when a person believes that they aren’t as successful as they ought to be. This can bring on the onset of depression. We all have a sense of worthiness, even those who suffer from an inferiority complex. The problem comes when an ego is so great that life just becomes one of pain and mental suffering.
Why do some companies have such a tremendous desire to build huge, tall buildings?
Do they really use all that space in these skyscrapers?
Well some do, but others are built to satisfy the egos of the company directors. The skyscraper is a symbol of how demanding an ego can be. We all try, in our own way, to build skyscrapers. In a positive manner, some of us look to become leaders or build financial success which in turn boosts our self confidence and self esteem. On the negative front, a minority will cause wars and tremendous suffering, all in the name of power and a desire to boost an ego.
Unfortunately skyscrapers sometimes fail to get built or come crashing down. As was mentioned earlier, this failure can lead to depression. How deep and severe the depression can be equates to the difference between ambition driven by ego and the current level of achievement.
How many people remain in unhealthy relationships because of their ego?
They continue to put up a front, creating to the world an impression that life is perfectly rosy in their relationship. Despite the underlying unhappiness, these people refuse to remove themselves from the relationship because of what others might think of them. Frightened perhaps that others may not see them as being normal because they are not part of a couple.
So how do we let go of this gremlin called an ego?
Despite not trying to preach religion, a belief in God certainly can help. God ultimately controls everything and in a roundabout way that includes us. Yes we make choices, but it is God who provides these choices, those opportunities and the tools with which to use to reach our goals. Take away some of these tools and we wouldn’t be the person we are today.
God doesn’t just give us everything we desire directly; he doesn’t plant that tree in our gardens that money grows on (despite what my wife and kids might think). But he does give us the tools to create the things that we desire. He gives us our minds, produces opportunities and creates those chance meetings with people who provide us with knowledge and inspiration.
These tools are responsible for our current identity and achievements. If we find that our egos are as inflated as a hot air balloon, we shouldn’t knock ourselves for it; just ask God to provide the tools that we need to develop the motivation, optimism and self confidence to achieve our dreams.
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
Sunday 15 February 2009
How the Law of Attraction Can Create Great Wealth and Abundance
Jason was the bloke that everybody liked to criticise. He was naturally self confident, with plenty of self esteem and optimism. He had the gift of the gab and always had a gorgeous girl on his arm. A natural salesman he had great abundance in his life. When he went to the “bookies” he nearly always came out on top, with more money than he went in with. Yet everybody knocked him, trying to pick holes in every trait of his personality.
Why?
Envy probably. People just didn’t like to see someone having a quality of life that really they wanted for themselves. It was far easier to criticise than to create the self confidence and self esteem that Jason had. Fortunately, what people thought and said mattered not one jot to Jason. He was way to busy producing and enjoying the riches that he had discovered.
We can all enjoy abundance and great riches too. Just like Jason we need that self belief that we can have, and will have riches. That fantastic natural law of attraction will bring those riches to those who wholeheartedly believe they can have them. Just about every great, successful person has that self belief that firstly, they can achieve success, and secondly, that once they have it, they deserve their success and can keep it. Some of these people may not be aware of their self confidence; it is something they have inherited. But for many others they have removed the barrier of natural pessimism using self confidence techniques and creating tremendous self esteem to orchestrate their success. http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
If you naturally think the worst, think that if you prepare yourself for the worst, then you won’t be disappointed, then guess what? You will not be disappointed. The worst WILL indeed happen. That again is this Law of Attraction. To attract great abundance you must clearly visualise abundance. Visualise and dream of all the things you want in life. See them as a clear image in your mind. Believe you CAN have them and don’t allow this vision to fade. Allowing negative thoughts to crawl their way back in will only restrict the flow of riches to you. I know this is easier said than done but you must be alert to those old thoughts worming their way back into your subconscious mind.
When formulating positive images to improve self confidence and magnetically attract abundance, concentrate on yourself and everything you want to achieve. Refrain from visualising harm being inflicted onto others or imagining others failing. To create true richness, harmony needs to prevail between you and all people you encounter in life. With this type of attitude we can all live in a world where a spirit of co-operation exists, where each person is willing to help the next.
Willing ill on your neighbour very seldom hurts that neighbour. Instead you end up hurting yourself, draining energy from within with the bitter emotions that have built up inside. Be a “Jason”. Look to enrich your life and concern yourself with what you can do to improve your lot. Develop your self esteem, optimism, motivation and inspiration and help yourself to achieve great abundance and wealth.
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com/
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
Why?
Envy probably. People just didn’t like to see someone having a quality of life that really they wanted for themselves. It was far easier to criticise than to create the self confidence and self esteem that Jason had. Fortunately, what people thought and said mattered not one jot to Jason. He was way to busy producing and enjoying the riches that he had discovered.
We can all enjoy abundance and great riches too. Just like Jason we need that self belief that we can have, and will have riches. That fantastic natural law of attraction will bring those riches to those who wholeheartedly believe they can have them. Just about every great, successful person has that self belief that firstly, they can achieve success, and secondly, that once they have it, they deserve their success and can keep it. Some of these people may not be aware of their self confidence; it is something they have inherited. But for many others they have removed the barrier of natural pessimism using self confidence techniques and creating tremendous self esteem to orchestrate their success. http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
If you naturally think the worst, think that if you prepare yourself for the worst, then you won’t be disappointed, then guess what? You will not be disappointed. The worst WILL indeed happen. That again is this Law of Attraction. To attract great abundance you must clearly visualise abundance. Visualise and dream of all the things you want in life. See them as a clear image in your mind. Believe you CAN have them and don’t allow this vision to fade. Allowing negative thoughts to crawl their way back in will only restrict the flow of riches to you. I know this is easier said than done but you must be alert to those old thoughts worming their way back into your subconscious mind.
When formulating positive images to improve self confidence and magnetically attract abundance, concentrate on yourself and everything you want to achieve. Refrain from visualising harm being inflicted onto others or imagining others failing. To create true richness, harmony needs to prevail between you and all people you encounter in life. With this type of attitude we can all live in a world where a spirit of co-operation exists, where each person is willing to help the next.
Willing ill on your neighbour very seldom hurts that neighbour. Instead you end up hurting yourself, draining energy from within with the bitter emotions that have built up inside. Be a “Jason”. Look to enrich your life and concern yourself with what you can do to improve your lot. Develop your self esteem, optimism, motivation and inspiration and help yourself to achieve great abundance and wealth.
Terry Norrington
http://www.whatisthemeaningoffaith.com/
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
Thursday 12 February 2009
Become a Great Leader Using Your Optimism and Motivation
To be a leader requires many qualities and abilities; qualities such as self confidence, motivation, optimism and enthusiasm. Having charisma also helps particularly in line with the ability to be engaging. To help you team to focus on the goals or project and fully understand their roles is a necessity for any task to be truly successful.
As a commissioning engineer I have had to train many personnel on equipment before handing over for them to maintain. It is extremely rewarding when your audience have fully participated in the training programme and you can see that they have really appreciated the knowledge that has been passed to them.
Back in 2003 I had two visits to Nigeria to commission some water treatment equipment at a tobacco factory in the city of Ibadan. On the second visit, one of my remits was to perform the training not only on the plant that I had been commissioning but also on another companys system to. As I wasn’t overly familiar with this equipment, I felt very apprehensive about conducting the training.
The organisation that I had been sub-contracted to were Yugoslavian and the engineers that I had been reporting to had said
“Don’t worry, these Nigerians won’t ask any questions, the training will soon be over”
These Yugoslavian engineers were conducting some training of their own after my session was over. Tuesday afternoon at 1.00p.m. my time came to perform my training. Gathered around the plant were ten Nigerian guys that at first glance looked totally uninterested.
“Lets go for it” I thought and proceeded to introduce myself.
Now my style was to be light-hearted, not taking myself too seriously. I would obviously go systematically over the equipment but I would throw questions back at them to make sure that they were taking in the information that I was imparting. By the time I had finished talking about the system that I was less familiar with I really felt that I had gotten these Nigerian maintenance staff on my side. I had them then ask me questions and these questions were very intelligent ones. They were interested and I was pleased that my style seemed to be working.
I was becoming more at ease now and when I went on to explain about my “baby”; the piece of equipment that I had commissioned I was in my element. The enthusiasm flowed out and by the end of my training session all these Nigerian maintenance engineers were gathering around me to ask questions about me. I honestly felt that they had taken me to their hearts. It was 4.00p.m.; some three hours later. This had hardly been a short training course and my Yugoslavian friends had still to conduct their training.
In comparison their method was far more serious. They didn’t ask questions of the students and didn’t invite questions back. It was plain to see the Nigerian staff “switching off” and loosing interest. These people were bright, intelligent people who could very easily take in the lessons providing the training was interesting and engaging.
Despite my nervousness at the beginning, I had the self confidence and self belief to get me through the training and win these people over. With the qualities of enthusiasm and optimism I was able to find the ability to provide motivation and inspiration to these Nigerian people.
Terry Norrington
http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
http://www.getselfconfident.com
http://140020.successuniversity.com
As a commissioning engineer I have had to train many personnel on equipment before handing over for them to maintain. It is extremely rewarding when your audience have fully participated in the training programme and you can see that they have really appreciated the knowledge that has been passed to them.
Back in 2003 I had two visits to Nigeria to commission some water treatment equipment at a tobacco factory in the city of Ibadan. On the second visit, one of my remits was to perform the training not only on the plant that I had been commissioning but also on another companys system to. As I wasn’t overly familiar with this equipment, I felt very apprehensive about conducting the training.
The organisation that I had been sub-contracted to were Yugoslavian and the engineers that I had been reporting to had said
“Don’t worry, these Nigerians won’t ask any questions, the training will soon be over”
These Yugoslavian engineers were conducting some training of their own after my session was over. Tuesday afternoon at 1.00p.m. my time came to perform my training. Gathered around the plant were ten Nigerian guys that at first glance looked totally uninterested.
“Lets go for it” I thought and proceeded to introduce myself.
Now my style was to be light-hearted, not taking myself too seriously. I would obviously go systematically over the equipment but I would throw questions back at them to make sure that they were taking in the information that I was imparting. By the time I had finished talking about the system that I was less familiar with I really felt that I had gotten these Nigerian maintenance staff on my side. I had them then ask me questions and these questions were very intelligent ones. They were interested and I was pleased that my style seemed to be working.
I was becoming more at ease now and when I went on to explain about my “baby”; the piece of equipment that I had commissioned I was in my element. The enthusiasm flowed out and by the end of my training session all these Nigerian maintenance engineers were gathering around me to ask questions about me. I honestly felt that they had taken me to their hearts. It was 4.00p.m.; some three hours later. This had hardly been a short training course and my Yugoslavian friends had still to conduct their training.
In comparison their method was far more serious. They didn’t ask questions of the students and didn’t invite questions back. It was plain to see the Nigerian staff “switching off” and loosing interest. These people were bright, intelligent people who could very easily take in the lessons providing the training was interesting and engaging.
Despite my nervousness at the beginning, I had the self confidence and self belief to get me through the training and win these people over. With the qualities of enthusiasm and optimism I was able to find the ability to provide motivation and inspiration to these Nigerian people.
Terry Norrington
http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
http://www.getselfconfident.com
http://140020.successuniversity.com
Tuesday 10 February 2009
Through My Faith and Optimism, God Looked After Me
In 2003, working as a Water Treatment Engineer, I was asked if I fancied a trip to Nigeria to commission some equipment. Having a certain spirit of adventure and wanderlust, it took me about ……. ten seconds to make up my mind. I had never visited an African state before and experiencing a culture completely different to my own, at first, seemed daunting yet exciting. I have always had a good amount of self confidence in my ability to adapt and a belief that God would always look after me.
It took two trips in the end to commission the water treatment equipment which amounted to about fifteen days in all. During that time I can easily say that I had more experiences than in the rest of my life, but that said, I have never regretted making those visits to Nigeria as I have tremendous memories despite quite a few dubious moments.
One of these precarious moments involved the journey home at the end of my second visit. The water treatment equipment that I had been commissioning had been installed at a tobacco plant being constructed for British American Tobacco in Ibadan, approximately ninety minutes drive north-east of Lagos – Lagos being Nigeria’s largest and most populated city. The Lagos to Ibadan Highway was a dual carriageway that consisted of two stretches of tarmac that carved its way through the jungle. There were no road markings and road users drove on any part of the lane they fancied and the usual, almost obligatory driving at eighty m.p.h. was made even more hazardous by the numerous pot-holes in the road.
Gabriel was my driver – a well built Nigerian gentleman who seemed full of self confidence and very at ease with the world; until he got behind the wheel of a car.
The car he chauffeured me around in was a beige coloured Mercedes. The first time I had visited it had been relatively luxurious, but now it seemed to be in need of a good service. The engine sounded very rough, the radio didn’t work and neither did the air conditioning. It didn’t provide me with much optimism.
We left Ibadan with what we thought was plenty of time to spare to travel back to the airport at Lagos. The weather was extremely hot and humid and the non existent air conditioning made for a very uncomfortable journey. There were two sets of tolls between Ibadan and Lagos, the first being five or six miles outside of Ibadan. Just after the first set of booths we were beckoned to pull over at a police check point. There were many of these check points on the roads around the big cities. A policeman, dressed in his burgundy uniform looked at me and asked Gabriel,
“Is he French?”
Although I am not, Gabriels reply was.
“Yes”
“Move on” the policeman ordered and gestured for us to go. Gabriel obligingly drove on.
A few miles further down the road one of the tyres developed a puncture. Gabriel pulled the Mercedes onto the dusty roadside. We both got out of the car and Gabriel proceeded to swap over the wheel with the spare.
“No good” he proclaimed.
“You mean the spare’s got a flat as well?” I asked in amazement.
“Look after these” Gabriel said. I was dumbfounded as he shoved the keys to the car into my hand.
I was totally bemused as Gabriel wheeled the two flat tyres over to an old, beat up, yellow recovery truck parked some fifty yards behind us. I watched as they drove off down the road, leaving me to look after the car. I checked my mobile phone. Surprise, surprise there was no signal available for me to be able to phone anybody. My only choice was to sit and wait, praying for Gabriel’s return.
Sitting in the boot of the car was my suitcase crammed with my clothes, my tool bag and a rucksack storing my paperwork. I couldn’t have cared less about the suitcase and tools but I wanted to protect the paperwork which basically consisted of my flight ticket and my passport. I took the rucksack and positioned it in the foot well behind my seat. Then I locked the doors.
Whilst I was nervously waiting, suddenly from across the other side of the highway came a family of four Nigerian girls, with what I assume to be the mother at the head, going down in age through the daughters, with the youngest at the rear. She looked to be about eight years old. They were all dressed in colourful tops and sarongs and carried baskets on their heads. Patiently they waited for gaps in the fast moving traffic, before making their way across the road and disappearing down a track into the jungle.
Forty minutes later I was absolutely relieved to see Gabriel returning in the yellow recovery truck with one repaired tyre. He quickly fitted this and we sped off to find a ram shackled shed by the side of the road that was equipped with an air compressor. This apparently was the road side tyre repair service. The young man there repaired the second tyre. Now that I realised what they were I noted many of these sheds spread along the highway between Ibadan and Lagos.
“Great” I thought, “now let’s just get to the airport.”
The second set of toll booths were situated half way between Ibadan and Lagos. As we approached these the traffic came to a grinding halt. It took ages but when we finally reached the booths Gabriel asked the attendant why we were held-up.
“Highway robbery. Gun men just appeared from the trees, fired their guns at one of the cars and looted both the car and the people they had killed.”
Gabriel glanced over at me and said,
“Good job we had puncture”
Surely nothing else could go wrong between here and the airport.
It was June, the rainy season in Nigeria, and as we were closing in on Lagos, dark, heavy clouds loomed up in the sky. The thunderstorms in that part of the world were very spectacular and the continuous display of lightning was totally enthralling. The rain that came with it was spectacular to. With the failure of the air conditioning, the windows misted over rapidly. The windscreen wipers were going at full speed and, even with all the windows down, it was still difficult to get good view ahead. I was getting soaked through and yet Gabriel was still driving at eighty m.p.h. around the holes in the road. All I wanted now was to get to Lagos and off the dual carriageway so that we could experience some calm.
When we did finally leave the highway the scenery became one of poverty. Market stalls lined both sides of the road, selling a large variety of fruit and vegetables and yet surrounded by waste. The traffic slowed and people darted between the vehicles prompting the customary sound of car horns that seemed to fill the air in all built up areas. By now the progress of the traffic had become painfully slow. Eventually we could see why. A river of water cascaded across the road. The traffic was stop-start through the stream of water and I dreaded the point when we would be driving through. In the middle of the stream the dodgy sounding engine stalled. Amazingly Gabriel turned the ignition key and got the car started again. It stalled a second time but he managed to start it again. Suddenly I felt a wet sensation on my feet. As I looked down I was greeted with the sight of water flooding into the foot well. Quickly I raised my feet onto the seat. Then it dawned on me,
“My paperwork and my rucksack are behind my seat”
I grabbed the rucksack and despairingly rummaged through my paperwork for my passport and flight ticket.
Sopping wet.
Fortunately my ticket and passport weren’t seriously damaged and still legible. The rest of the journey to the airport was spent waving my papers in the air in a desperate attempt to dry them out.
What should have been an hour and a half journey took over five hours. Although it was fraught with much anxiety, I can honestly say that there was no point where I doubted my survival. My optimism, self confidence, and belief in God helped me see positively through each incident. There wasn’t a need to panic at any time. Experiences like these, difficult though they were, creates personal growth, making me a stronger person, knowing that I have the self confidence to see me through other obstacles and challenges that life may present.
For someone like me, brought up in a secure environment, experiences like these seem very dramatic. I would imagine that for the average Nigerian this would be commonplace. This provides Nigerian people with a deep hunger to improve their circumstances. There are opportunities for them, and I dream of returning one day to help them create the success that they so crave for. http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
Terry Norrington
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
http://www.getselfconfident.com
http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
It took two trips in the end to commission the water treatment equipment which amounted to about fifteen days in all. During that time I can easily say that I had more experiences than in the rest of my life, but that said, I have never regretted making those visits to Nigeria as I have tremendous memories despite quite a few dubious moments.
One of these precarious moments involved the journey home at the end of my second visit. The water treatment equipment that I had been commissioning had been installed at a tobacco plant being constructed for British American Tobacco in Ibadan, approximately ninety minutes drive north-east of Lagos – Lagos being Nigeria’s largest and most populated city. The Lagos to Ibadan Highway was a dual carriageway that consisted of two stretches of tarmac that carved its way through the jungle. There were no road markings and road users drove on any part of the lane they fancied and the usual, almost obligatory driving at eighty m.p.h. was made even more hazardous by the numerous pot-holes in the road.
Gabriel was my driver – a well built Nigerian gentleman who seemed full of self confidence and very at ease with the world; until he got behind the wheel of a car.
The car he chauffeured me around in was a beige coloured Mercedes. The first time I had visited it had been relatively luxurious, but now it seemed to be in need of a good service. The engine sounded very rough, the radio didn’t work and neither did the air conditioning. It didn’t provide me with much optimism.
We left Ibadan with what we thought was plenty of time to spare to travel back to the airport at Lagos. The weather was extremely hot and humid and the non existent air conditioning made for a very uncomfortable journey. There were two sets of tolls between Ibadan and Lagos, the first being five or six miles outside of Ibadan. Just after the first set of booths we were beckoned to pull over at a police check point. There were many of these check points on the roads around the big cities. A policeman, dressed in his burgundy uniform looked at me and asked Gabriel,
“Is he French?”
Although I am not, Gabriels reply was.
“Yes”
“Move on” the policeman ordered and gestured for us to go. Gabriel obligingly drove on.
A few miles further down the road one of the tyres developed a puncture. Gabriel pulled the Mercedes onto the dusty roadside. We both got out of the car and Gabriel proceeded to swap over the wheel with the spare.
“No good” he proclaimed.
“You mean the spare’s got a flat as well?” I asked in amazement.
“Look after these” Gabriel said. I was dumbfounded as he shoved the keys to the car into my hand.
I was totally bemused as Gabriel wheeled the two flat tyres over to an old, beat up, yellow recovery truck parked some fifty yards behind us. I watched as they drove off down the road, leaving me to look after the car. I checked my mobile phone. Surprise, surprise there was no signal available for me to be able to phone anybody. My only choice was to sit and wait, praying for Gabriel’s return.
Sitting in the boot of the car was my suitcase crammed with my clothes, my tool bag and a rucksack storing my paperwork. I couldn’t have cared less about the suitcase and tools but I wanted to protect the paperwork which basically consisted of my flight ticket and my passport. I took the rucksack and positioned it in the foot well behind my seat. Then I locked the doors.
Whilst I was nervously waiting, suddenly from across the other side of the highway came a family of four Nigerian girls, with what I assume to be the mother at the head, going down in age through the daughters, with the youngest at the rear. She looked to be about eight years old. They were all dressed in colourful tops and sarongs and carried baskets on their heads. Patiently they waited for gaps in the fast moving traffic, before making their way across the road and disappearing down a track into the jungle.
Forty minutes later I was absolutely relieved to see Gabriel returning in the yellow recovery truck with one repaired tyre. He quickly fitted this and we sped off to find a ram shackled shed by the side of the road that was equipped with an air compressor. This apparently was the road side tyre repair service. The young man there repaired the second tyre. Now that I realised what they were I noted many of these sheds spread along the highway between Ibadan and Lagos.
“Great” I thought, “now let’s just get to the airport.”
The second set of toll booths were situated half way between Ibadan and Lagos. As we approached these the traffic came to a grinding halt. It took ages but when we finally reached the booths Gabriel asked the attendant why we were held-up.
“Highway robbery. Gun men just appeared from the trees, fired their guns at one of the cars and looted both the car and the people they had killed.”
Gabriel glanced over at me and said,
“Good job we had puncture”
Surely nothing else could go wrong between here and the airport.
It was June, the rainy season in Nigeria, and as we were closing in on Lagos, dark, heavy clouds loomed up in the sky. The thunderstorms in that part of the world were very spectacular and the continuous display of lightning was totally enthralling. The rain that came with it was spectacular to. With the failure of the air conditioning, the windows misted over rapidly. The windscreen wipers were going at full speed and, even with all the windows down, it was still difficult to get good view ahead. I was getting soaked through and yet Gabriel was still driving at eighty m.p.h. around the holes in the road. All I wanted now was to get to Lagos and off the dual carriageway so that we could experience some calm.
When we did finally leave the highway the scenery became one of poverty. Market stalls lined both sides of the road, selling a large variety of fruit and vegetables and yet surrounded by waste. The traffic slowed and people darted between the vehicles prompting the customary sound of car horns that seemed to fill the air in all built up areas. By now the progress of the traffic had become painfully slow. Eventually we could see why. A river of water cascaded across the road. The traffic was stop-start through the stream of water and I dreaded the point when we would be driving through. In the middle of the stream the dodgy sounding engine stalled. Amazingly Gabriel turned the ignition key and got the car started again. It stalled a second time but he managed to start it again. Suddenly I felt a wet sensation on my feet. As I looked down I was greeted with the sight of water flooding into the foot well. Quickly I raised my feet onto the seat. Then it dawned on me,
“My paperwork and my rucksack are behind my seat”
I grabbed the rucksack and despairingly rummaged through my paperwork for my passport and flight ticket.
Sopping wet.
Fortunately my ticket and passport weren’t seriously damaged and still legible. The rest of the journey to the airport was spent waving my papers in the air in a desperate attempt to dry them out.
What should have been an hour and a half journey took over five hours. Although it was fraught with much anxiety, I can honestly say that there was no point where I doubted my survival. My optimism, self confidence, and belief in God helped me see positively through each incident. There wasn’t a need to panic at any time. Experiences like these, difficult though they were, creates personal growth, making me a stronger person, knowing that I have the self confidence to see me through other obstacles and challenges that life may present.
For someone like me, brought up in a secure environment, experiences like these seem very dramatic. I would imagine that for the average Nigerian this would be commonplace. This provides Nigerian people with a deep hunger to improve their circumstances. There are opportunities for them, and I dream of returning one day to help them create the success that they so crave for. http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
Terry Norrington
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
http://www.getselfconfident.com
http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
Sunday 8 February 2009
Your Life is Filled with Great Hope and Optimism. Why Not Share it with the World.
One of the greatest attributes we can possess is optimism. Optimism provides hope and motivation, plus it is a great supporter of self esteem and self confidence. For those that have it, it can provide tremendous inspiration for those that recognise it.
If you are blessed with optimism or you have re-invented yourself to view life optimistically, there is no doubt that to secrete some of your optimism into others is a satisfying and rewarding thing to do. Helping somebody with a negative outlook on a particular subject by gently and patiently getting them to view the positive side can really set the heart aglow.
So how do you get somebody to re-frame their outlook?
www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
Firstly you must listen. Barging in with positive comments straight away will show a total lack of empathy. To be told right at the beginning “never mind, it could be worse” will make the recipient believe that his/her feelings are worthless and pointless and less likely to turn to you for advice in the future.
There is a place where “never mind, it could be worse” fits in but this is more appropriate when you are turning the situation around. You must also have examples as to how “it could be worse”
Try to show understanding about the persons feelings. A correctly placed “that must be really hard for you” will start to win you over. Don’t knock the persons point of view or fault them for feeling the way they do.
Explore the worst case scenario with them.
What is the worst that is likely to happen if the situation is indeed that bad?
It is going to be an extreme disaster zone if they are not going to be O.K. at the end of it.
Then explore some of the more positive aspects of the situation. With just a little prompting, the person is quite possibly going to suggest these to you. By doing this they are automatically developing a more positive mind set. They start to smile and you can see some sparkle and energy in their eyes.
www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
Sometimes, no matter how much you try to help somebody see things in a different and more positive light, that person doesn’t seem to be taking on board your words. As much as resilience is another admirable quality to have, there is no point in “flogging a dead horse”. Some people are content to wallow in their misery and negativity. If, after three attempts you haven’t been able to instil a bit of hope in that person, perhaps you need to leave this one alone. This may sound unkind but there is a distinct possibility that they will pass on their negative feelings to you and you end up loosing your motivation and inspiration.
Optimism and hope provides a great deal of motivation, inspiration, self esteem and self confidence. Share this with others and reap the rewards.
Terry Norrington
http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.com
www.2knowmyself.com
If you are blessed with optimism or you have re-invented yourself to view life optimistically, there is no doubt that to secrete some of your optimism into others is a satisfying and rewarding thing to do. Helping somebody with a negative outlook on a particular subject by gently and patiently getting them to view the positive side can really set the heart aglow.
So how do you get somebody to re-frame their outlook?
www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
Firstly you must listen. Barging in with positive comments straight away will show a total lack of empathy. To be told right at the beginning “never mind, it could be worse” will make the recipient believe that his/her feelings are worthless and pointless and less likely to turn to you for advice in the future.
There is a place where “never mind, it could be worse” fits in but this is more appropriate when you are turning the situation around. You must also have examples as to how “it could be worse”
Try to show understanding about the persons feelings. A correctly placed “that must be really hard for you” will start to win you over. Don’t knock the persons point of view or fault them for feeling the way they do.
Explore the worst case scenario with them.
What is the worst that is likely to happen if the situation is indeed that bad?
It is going to be an extreme disaster zone if they are not going to be O.K. at the end of it.
Then explore some of the more positive aspects of the situation. With just a little prompting, the person is quite possibly going to suggest these to you. By doing this they are automatically developing a more positive mind set. They start to smile and you can see some sparkle and energy in their eyes.
www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
Sometimes, no matter how much you try to help somebody see things in a different and more positive light, that person doesn’t seem to be taking on board your words. As much as resilience is another admirable quality to have, there is no point in “flogging a dead horse”. Some people are content to wallow in their misery and negativity. If, after three attempts you haven’t been able to instil a bit of hope in that person, perhaps you need to leave this one alone. This may sound unkind but there is a distinct possibility that they will pass on their negative feelings to you and you end up loosing your motivation and inspiration.
Optimism and hope provides a great deal of motivation, inspiration, self esteem and self confidence. Share this with others and reap the rewards.
Terry Norrington
http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.com
www.2knowmyself.com
Friday 6 February 2009
Don't Re-Invent the Wheel, Re-Invent Yourself for Great Self Esteem
We all have an image of ourselves. If that image is a positive one, our self esteem will be good. We will have motivation to achieve, combined with optimism and hope for the future. Certainly the most successful people in life have a great, positive self image that attracts success. These men and women will hold themselves with confidence and poise, exuding a successful lifestyle.
For so many others, that image of themselves isn’t so good. They see themselves as being fat or unsuccessful, their vision being of a person with no confidence or deserving of no worth at all. These beliefs are embedded deep within their subconscious mind and it becomes so difficult to turn their lives around. Their self image is turned into a “self fulfilling prophecy” and they are then that fat person or the unsuccessful one.
The identity we create for ourselves come from three sources,
The experiences we have had in our lives and how we have perceived them.
Outside programming; in other words what people say or have said about us.
What we say and think about ourselves.
In order to change the circumstances, the individual must first want to change their situation. The desire to change must also be strong. Half hearted attempts at remodelling their lives will more than likely end up in failure. http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
The next step is to re-think the person they are. Re-invent themselves. One reason that so many diets fail is because the person sees themselves as being fat. They may well be carrying to much weight but having the self image of a fat person makes the subconscious mind do all it can to keep the body fat. The diet becomes extremely difficult to stick to and cravings for high calorie food are then hard to resist.
A self image of a slim person needs to be created in the mind for dieting to stand a better chance of being successful. Re-invent that self image. By making affirmations that they are slim and beautiful and acting likewise will get the subconscious mind working to create that desired shape, the body they so want.
It is exactly the same with abundance. An image of poverty and a life lacking success will bring exactly that; a lack of abundance and success. To alter the situation one most first re-invent themselves: change the self imagery to one of abundance and success which will develop a greater self esteem. http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
The story that people tell about themselves must change. It is all very well being self deprecating but if those words are being believed then the image one has of themselves will be poor. It doesn’t mean that people should start bragging and tell others that they are thin when they have obviously still got some weight to lose. But to themselves, the self talk must be positive and the story should be saying that they are already the person they want to be.
Being surrounded by people who can only criticise is the most demoralising of situations. Constructive criticism from informed people is obviously necessary for progress to be made but this needs to be outweighed by encouragement and praise for self image and self esteem to be boosted. For those that find themselves in the company of people who seem to always express negative opinions, the time has probably come to change the people they mix with. One must set the standards for outside programming, determining what level of criticism they can accept without affecting their positive self image.
For those that suffer a negative self image, re-inventing themselves will do amazing things for their self esteem, motivation, inspiration and self confidence.
Terry Norrington
http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
http://whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.com
www.2knowmyself.com
For so many others, that image of themselves isn’t so good. They see themselves as being fat or unsuccessful, their vision being of a person with no confidence or deserving of no worth at all. These beliefs are embedded deep within their subconscious mind and it becomes so difficult to turn their lives around. Their self image is turned into a “self fulfilling prophecy” and they are then that fat person or the unsuccessful one.
The identity we create for ourselves come from three sources,
The experiences we have had in our lives and how we have perceived them.
Outside programming; in other words what people say or have said about us.
What we say and think about ourselves.
In order to change the circumstances, the individual must first want to change their situation. The desire to change must also be strong. Half hearted attempts at remodelling their lives will more than likely end up in failure. http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
The next step is to re-think the person they are. Re-invent themselves. One reason that so many diets fail is because the person sees themselves as being fat. They may well be carrying to much weight but having the self image of a fat person makes the subconscious mind do all it can to keep the body fat. The diet becomes extremely difficult to stick to and cravings for high calorie food are then hard to resist.
A self image of a slim person needs to be created in the mind for dieting to stand a better chance of being successful. Re-invent that self image. By making affirmations that they are slim and beautiful and acting likewise will get the subconscious mind working to create that desired shape, the body they so want.
It is exactly the same with abundance. An image of poverty and a life lacking success will bring exactly that; a lack of abundance and success. To alter the situation one most first re-invent themselves: change the self imagery to one of abundance and success which will develop a greater self esteem. http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
The story that people tell about themselves must change. It is all very well being self deprecating but if those words are being believed then the image one has of themselves will be poor. It doesn’t mean that people should start bragging and tell others that they are thin when they have obviously still got some weight to lose. But to themselves, the self talk must be positive and the story should be saying that they are already the person they want to be.
Being surrounded by people who can only criticise is the most demoralising of situations. Constructive criticism from informed people is obviously necessary for progress to be made but this needs to be outweighed by encouragement and praise for self image and self esteem to be boosted. For those that find themselves in the company of people who seem to always express negative opinions, the time has probably come to change the people they mix with. One must set the standards for outside programming, determining what level of criticism they can accept without affecting their positive self image.
For those that suffer a negative self image, re-inventing themselves will do amazing things for their self esteem, motivation, inspiration and self confidence.
Terry Norrington
http://140020.successuniversity.com/new
http://whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
www.getselfconfident.com
www.2knowmyself.com
Tuesday 3 February 2009
How Powerful Hypnosis Can Greatly Improve Your Self Esteem and Optimism
Hypnosis is such a powerful method for improving self confidence, self image, motivation and optimism yet it is shrouded in myths, mystery and images of the occult.
So what is hypnosis?
Can we dispel some of the myths that surround it?
How can we use it to improve our lives?
Hypnosis is?
Hypnosis is a scientifically proven and powerfully effective technique that can help in cases as
changing behaviour
improving mental health
breaking bad habits
improving optimism, motivation and self esteem
setting goals
quitting smoking
losing weight.
The process involves getting the subject into a very relaxed state of relaxation. At this point the subconscious mind becomes extremely receptive to suggestions. As one of the functions of the subconscious mind is to control our beliefs and emotions, it can now be seen how beliefs and thoughts can easily be altered using hypnosis. This may at first appear to be a frightening prospect but as we shall demonstrate there shouldn’t be anything to fear. http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
So what are the myths?
The media are very hot on portraying subjects under the influence of hypnosis as being asleep. Many a stage act has produced people performing what seems like absurd routines.
On the contrary, hypnosis is an approved scientifically based method of therapy which is many centuries old. Under hypnosis the subject remains aware of his/her surroundings. The conscious mind becomes a little dormant and the subconscious mind takes more control but the subject cannot be forced to do or say anything that they do not want to. Such participants in any stage performance are likely to be very extrovert by nature and enjoy performing in public anyway.
Being under hypnosis is to be in a state of deep relaxation, receptive to suggestions yet still being aware of the surroundings. It’s like being half awake, that short period before falling asleep. It is sometimes referred to as “the trance state” where the conscious mind is slightly dormant so does not perform its normal function of filtering suggestions.
The conscious mind filters out what it does not like or will not accept. Tell somebody that is lacking in confidence that they are a confident person and their conscious mind will likely block that idea. Under hypnosis though, the conscious mind is less capable of blocking suggestions, so the suggestion of confidence now by-passes the conscious mind and sinks into the subconscious mind. Further repetition of this suggestion under hypnosis will deepen the belief.
Commercials on television have little effect on us unless they catch us in a state of deep relaxation. Sometimes if we are fully engrossed in a television programme the interruption of that programme can catch us in an almost hypnotic state. Subliminal advertising where messages were flashed onto the screen so quickly that the eye didn’t see it were very affective many decades ago. Despite the eye not catching it, the subconscious mind did and subsequently many people developed the desire to have that product. Needless to say, this practice has no been abolished on our T.V. sets now. http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
What can hypnosis do for us?
In the deep relaxed state where the subconscious mind is more in control, it becomes easier to program. Thus new beliefs can be installed and old ones strengthened. As the subconscious mind controls behaviour, so new patterns of behaviour can be installed.
Inferiority complexes can be removed, self images greatly improved and self confidence, motivation and optimism strongly boosted. All tremendous qualities to create success.
Terry Norrington
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
http://www.getselfconfident.com
http://www.2knowmyself.com
http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
So what is hypnosis?
Can we dispel some of the myths that surround it?
How can we use it to improve our lives?
Hypnosis is?
Hypnosis is a scientifically proven and powerfully effective technique that can help in cases as
changing behaviour
improving mental health
breaking bad habits
improving optimism, motivation and self esteem
setting goals
quitting smoking
losing weight.
The process involves getting the subject into a very relaxed state of relaxation. At this point the subconscious mind becomes extremely receptive to suggestions. As one of the functions of the subconscious mind is to control our beliefs and emotions, it can now be seen how beliefs and thoughts can easily be altered using hypnosis. This may at first appear to be a frightening prospect but as we shall demonstrate there shouldn’t be anything to fear. http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
So what are the myths?
The media are very hot on portraying subjects under the influence of hypnosis as being asleep. Many a stage act has produced people performing what seems like absurd routines.
On the contrary, hypnosis is an approved scientifically based method of therapy which is many centuries old. Under hypnosis the subject remains aware of his/her surroundings. The conscious mind becomes a little dormant and the subconscious mind takes more control but the subject cannot be forced to do or say anything that they do not want to. Such participants in any stage performance are likely to be very extrovert by nature and enjoy performing in public anyway.
Being under hypnosis is to be in a state of deep relaxation, receptive to suggestions yet still being aware of the surroundings. It’s like being half awake, that short period before falling asleep. It is sometimes referred to as “the trance state” where the conscious mind is slightly dormant so does not perform its normal function of filtering suggestions.
The conscious mind filters out what it does not like or will not accept. Tell somebody that is lacking in confidence that they are a confident person and their conscious mind will likely block that idea. Under hypnosis though, the conscious mind is less capable of blocking suggestions, so the suggestion of confidence now by-passes the conscious mind and sinks into the subconscious mind. Further repetition of this suggestion under hypnosis will deepen the belief.
Commercials on television have little effect on us unless they catch us in a state of deep relaxation. Sometimes if we are fully engrossed in a television programme the interruption of that programme can catch us in an almost hypnotic state. Subliminal advertising where messages were flashed onto the screen so quickly that the eye didn’t see it were very affective many decades ago. Despite the eye not catching it, the subconscious mind did and subsequently many people developed the desire to have that product. Needless to say, this practice has no been abolished on our T.V. sets now. http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
What can hypnosis do for us?
In the deep relaxed state where the subconscious mind is more in control, it becomes easier to program. Thus new beliefs can be installed and old ones strengthened. As the subconscious mind controls behaviour, so new patterns of behaviour can be installed.
Inferiority complexes can be removed, self images greatly improved and self confidence, motivation and optimism strongly boosted. All tremendous qualities to create success.
Terry Norrington
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
http://www.getselfconfident.com
http://www.2knowmyself.com
http://www.alleluiasuccessishere.com
Sunday 1 February 2009
Get Rid of That Debilitating Inferiority Complex and Develop Great Self Esteem
There is nothing like an inferiority complex to destroy motivation, inspiration and self confidence. Self esteem can greatly be affected by feelings of inferiority too, so what is an inferiority complex and how do we overcome it?
The causes of inferiority complex.
Unfortunate or even catastrophic events of the past which have lead to you labelling yourself as inadequate or unworthy are the most common reasons that an inferiority complex has developed. Such events could be:-
Coming from a different race to your peers and being ridiculed for it.
Mocked by your teachers or peers by calling you lazy or stupid.
Being handicapped.
Feeling ugly compared to your peers.
Not being skilled at a popular sport.
Parents continuously putting you down.
Coming from a lower social level than your peers.
Sometimes it is very hard to get to the root cause of your inferiority complex. Childhood memories can be deeply locked away in the memory. Hypnosis is a very powerful way of unlocking from your subconscious mind, those hidden memories that may well be creating feelings of inferiority.
http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
You feel different from others which give feelings of being disadvantaged. If you aren’t particularly clever but had the fortune to be surrounded by encouraging teachers and loving parents you would have, more likely than not, grown up with no feelings of inferiority and a self esteem fully balanced.
Some people compensate for their inferiority complex by striving to achieve in other areas such as sport or their studies. Many high achievers can attribute their success to an inferiority complex which, to some degree, isn’t a bad thing.
Other people will mask their feelings of inferiority by acting superior to everybody else thus developing a superiority complex.
Overcoming an inferiority complex and low self esteem.
As mentioned earlier, the root cause of the inferiority complex needs to be discovered. Hypnosis may well help this process.
http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
Don’t associate your inferiority complex with current external conditions. Not achieving your grades, driving high performance cars or generally not being successful are current external factors. Inferiority comes from within. There are many people who spend their lives achieving great wealth and power and yet still never conquer those inferior feelings.
Self talk in the positive. By catching all those negative thoughts and comments and replacing them with positive ones about yourself, and then repeating this over and over again will eventually allow you to think positively automatically.
Remove those labels that you have allowed to develop through your lifes journey. Those labels such as “fool” or “idiot” that you some how associate with yourself need to be challenged and erased to greatly improve your self esteem and confidence.
The use of hypnosis under professional guidance is an extremely powerful tool to banish an inferiority complex. http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
Rebuild your self confidence. Remember you are not your behaviour or your looks. You don’t have to have everything in life or be perfect at everything to feel worthy.
Removing an inferiority complex will greatly improve self confidence, self esteem, motivation and inspiration whilst allowing you to live your life with tremendous optimism.
Terry Norrington
http://140020.successuniversity.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
www.getselfconfident.com
www.2knowmyself.com
The causes of inferiority complex.
Unfortunate or even catastrophic events of the past which have lead to you labelling yourself as inadequate or unworthy are the most common reasons that an inferiority complex has developed. Such events could be:-
Coming from a different race to your peers and being ridiculed for it.
Mocked by your teachers or peers by calling you lazy or stupid.
Being handicapped.
Feeling ugly compared to your peers.
Not being skilled at a popular sport.
Parents continuously putting you down.
Coming from a lower social level than your peers.
Sometimes it is very hard to get to the root cause of your inferiority complex. Childhood memories can be deeply locked away in the memory. Hypnosis is a very powerful way of unlocking from your subconscious mind, those hidden memories that may well be creating feelings of inferiority.
http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
You feel different from others which give feelings of being disadvantaged. If you aren’t particularly clever but had the fortune to be surrounded by encouraging teachers and loving parents you would have, more likely than not, grown up with no feelings of inferiority and a self esteem fully balanced.
Some people compensate for their inferiority complex by striving to achieve in other areas such as sport or their studies. Many high achievers can attribute their success to an inferiority complex which, to some degree, isn’t a bad thing.
Other people will mask their feelings of inferiority by acting superior to everybody else thus developing a superiority complex.
Overcoming an inferiority complex and low self esteem.
As mentioned earlier, the root cause of the inferiority complex needs to be discovered. Hypnosis may well help this process.
http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
Don’t associate your inferiority complex with current external conditions. Not achieving your grades, driving high performance cars or generally not being successful are current external factors. Inferiority comes from within. There are many people who spend their lives achieving great wealth and power and yet still never conquer those inferior feelings.
Self talk in the positive. By catching all those negative thoughts and comments and replacing them with positive ones about yourself, and then repeating this over and over again will eventually allow you to think positively automatically.
Remove those labels that you have allowed to develop through your lifes journey. Those labels such as “fool” or “idiot” that you some how associate with yourself need to be challenged and erased to greatly improve your self esteem and confidence.
The use of hypnosis under professional guidance is an extremely powerful tool to banish an inferiority complex. http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
Rebuild your self confidence. Remember you are not your behaviour or your looks. You don’t have to have everything in life or be perfect at everything to feel worthy.
Removing an inferiority complex will greatly improve self confidence, self esteem, motivation and inspiration whilst allowing you to live your life with tremendous optimism.
Terry Norrington
http://140020.successuniversity.com
http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/index.htm#terryn1
http://www.mckenna-direct.com/cgi-bin/at.cgi?a=456791
www.getselfconfident.com
www.2knowmyself.com
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